Ok Please read my post. It may be long, but I wrote every details to put you on tu situation.

I dance with this HB8 on a club. We work together so it was easy to make a move. Anyway, we were not really close friends...we just say hi when we see each other at work and that's it. After we danced, at work we started talking a little bit more. Then, a few days later, she get my phone number by someone else. We started txting and she gave me a lot of IOI. Then we went out again. This time, before we see each other, I told her I hope she will remember everything, then she answered "Make me wanna remember". This is a HUGE IOI so the game was on. I k-closed that night, we made out for a long time, a lot of kino, dancing and fun. From that...it was weird. It's like that I lost some interest but I was still gaming her, she was fun. We started txting and she told me that she had been played 2 time in a row and all men are basterds. I was like sure...and I froze her for about 2 days until I saw her at the job. Then she started asking me why I stop talking to her blablabla. I made some fun about that like if she was overreacting. Then I invite her to a date.

From that, it gets really weird. At first, it wasn't really a date, I told her to come with me to get a new shirt but in my mind it's just an excuse (What an AFC...if you read this, NEVER DO THAT PLEASE!). But at least I realised my mistake and I txted her the next day that we should go get a coffee instead of shopping. I didn't say it was a date, but I mean it was obvious. She said yes. Then at the job, she asked me what time we go there, our friend overheard and asked : "Hey can I join? I will bring my new chick".

Sure...why not, a double date should be fun. Anyway, I get there, what I see? My friend got stood up, then they invited another of my friend to come join us. So we were 3 guys and the girl I was supposed to have a date with her. I was so bumped out that I wasn't in my mood for the time we were there. They were going to someone's place to play some video games, I said fuck that I'll go home I'm tired.

What the f**k happened? Did she understood it was a date and was too polite to say no or she didn't actually got the message? I mean there we so many IOIs and the k-close...Am I missing something important or is the girl weird?

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The problem doesn't lie with her. It's YOU.
1. Helping you picking out a shirt isn't AFC, in fact it was a PERFECT invitation. You want to be CASUAL, never make it sound like a DATE.

2. You didn't have to txt her to CORRECT YOURSELF. You could have just simply wait til she shows up then drag her to the coffee (This is what an alpha male would do)

3. You randomly freeze her out. Freezing out is used to punish and correct her BAD behavior, she DID NOT give you any BS. She SHARED her bad experiences with you. And WTF instead of making her feel safe with you, you PUNISHED her ???

4. You COULD have stand up like a man and stop the guy from cockblocking you, but you LET it SLIDE and AGREED for him to tag along

5. Instead of making it a FUN date for her, you actually BUMPED out and DITCHED her ? You RUN AWAY instead of trying to fix the problem.
You showed her that you're immature, you get frustrated if something doesnt go according to your plan. You rather bail yourself out of the uncomfy situation than stick with her.
It's important to stay calm and collective when you're dealing with problems.

Yes, you're missing a lot of important things. and yes she's perfectly normal, and she was even into you and went through the trouble to get your number.
And the guys overheard the convo and asked to tag along. Why did you pin it on her and said she INVITED them?
Now that you know what you did wrong, you can AVOID them next time.

In my experience and just in general, never ever ever bail on a girl even if things turn out to go pear shaped.

Just 'cause these two cockblocks showed up you decided to call it a day and go home?

Ugh..tells the girl that you're very needy and this is a big turn off for women unfortunately. Would you have bailed if it was 3 girls and you?

Like toahackne said, this girl shared a bad experience with you and you froze her? Seriously dude? Sorry to say but this is most likely to stick with her.."oh I told him about my past and he ignored me..won't bother doing that again then!"

Don't stress on minor details..there's plenty of time to build rapport. Show her the comfort and she'll follow you into bed

Dude one of my friends got invited to coffee ON valentines day AND still didn't realize it was a date, poor chump haha, i agree with taohackne the t-shirt thing was a perfect way to get her off guard in a one-on-one situation.

and if you bail everytime you get a cockblock from a clueless afc, you're not going to make a lot of progress, go through with it, and you'll know how to handle it, you can easily change location and split the guys off just go "so me and hb are going to go pick up a t-shirt see you later guys" or something like that!

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Thank you for your answers guys. I see another point of view of the situation now. Can I recover this or I shouldn't bother?

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hmm well she does work with you so unless you have other projects lined up at work i don't see the harm in having a little side game with her.

@Spike007-As Taohackne said,the invite to pick out shirt w gret idea!

You dont want dates to seem like dates(traditional)which is nerve-wrecking.

So that was a huge mistake by you to say it was AFC'ish to invite a girl to pick out shirts(for you).

For heaven's sake,retract that statement because it may mislead others.

And what you're missing here(your problem)is that you keep pointing out IOI's or seeking IOI's when you already have them.

This chicc gave you the biggest IOI ever by getting your # from someone else in order to reach you.

Hello!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

That's a guarantee lay once a girl does that.

But you failed to capitalize off that.

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I got it I messed up... My question was should I continue to game her by building confort before inviting her again or I should do something else?

EDIT : Should I txt her something? We txted each day before last night but she was always the first one who start. Today I got no txt at all...

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Contrary to what most people have been saying, I want to contribute that the freeze-out in response to the text wasn't such a big mistake. Your intentions were good -- she was misbehaving! -- but your execution was awful.

If you're "there for her" when she's trying to dump her negative feelings, you're her emotional toilet. When you take a dump, do you respect and reward the toilet for being there for you, or do you go away because it smells like shit?

Try this on for a start. Have you ever said something that offended someone you were interested in? Did you keep thinking about it over and over again as being stupid, etc., rather than thinking about whatever made you say it? Do you follow what I'm saying? If you stood up for yourself, you'd put her in that "oh shit I offended him" state rather than the "fuck men they're all pigs" mood she was in.

You seem to misinterpret my advice there. I DID NOT say "BE THERE FOR HER" as a shoulder to cry on. I said MAKING HER FEEL SAFE. It's important to show her that you're not gonna ditch her the minute after you fuck her to avoid LMRs.
And how was she misbehaving ? She was building rapport by sharing bad experiences. If i take your point, it would be like a girl tells you she threw up on rollercoasters and she hates them, therefore she must be misbehaving. WTF ?
No offend but you seem to hold a grudge against this certain situation Asmodai, perhaps something bad happened to you in the past which affect your judgment. But it's important to keep a lever head and judge the case without any bias.

You can see the results already, her level of interest dropped. Just keep everything cool, act aloof.
Don't apologize for what you did, ignore it and act like usual. Build more comfort and be more playful but don't break sexual tension. Your best chance will be invite her to a social gathering instead of dates, show her your social proof. DHVs and let she know that you're an alpha male.
You just might be able to change her opinion and redeem yourself.

Allright, I wasn't sure if I should explain it to her. I initiated the first txt today with her today lol. I was going out with some of my friend with who I feel really confortable. I thought about inviting her but I think it will look too needy to ask her out 2 days in a row.

Thank you for your answers seriously. If someone else have anything to add it would be really appreciated.

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