Two things. Been going on dates and hooking up with this one girl for a bit over a month. I really like her, like I just liking being around her, she has this awesome happy energy and is just fun. Ok enough of that. I want to make her an ltr. I was going to alpha up and ask her;

"Are you seeing anyone else right now?" (And that's question one...is that too afc to ask?)

And then tell her "being with you has changed my perspective on relationships (told her I wasn't sure if I wanted one) I don't want a relationship with just anyone, you're the lucky one. (Then half-smile...figure cockiness might break the tension that could arise)"

Good idea? Bad idea?

And no it's not one-itis I'm talking to a few girls it's just this one feels like the right fit for me.

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I would not ask her anything. Asking if she is seeing someone puts her in the position to control the dynamic and it's a bit AFC. Instead, try being more affectionate towards her and see how she responds. Hold her hand, put your arm around, etc. In other words, start acting like you guys are already in an ltr. If she starts to respond positively to it and shows YOU affection, there is a very good chance that she would be o.k. with the idea of an ltr. At this point, you can say something like, 'I think I'll make you my girlfriend'...or something along those lines.

However, if she backs off and acts cold, then you can assume that an ltr isn't in the cards.

Using this method will give you the answer you are looking for while maintaining a high status.

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ditto

we already hold hands and she'll sit in my lap and i was her date to her sorority formal...and she'll kiss me and touch my arm and grab my hand if i don't hold hers quick enough in public but then in her building...where her friends can potentially see...she acts a bit colder. she's fine with in public just not if her friends are nearby.

edit: but thanks for the advice. i'm freezing her out currently cause I let her know that I'm so cocky (I was waaaaaaay beyond C&F I was just putting up walls at this point) cause after the year I've had I was a bit nervous to open up. I AFC'd hard...we talked until we fell asleep though but I'm gonna let her talk to me first to gauge interest here. Set up a date, then my female friends suggested telling her exactly how I feel about her, then I'd probably use the "I think I'll make you my girlfriend." would "I think I wanna make you my girlfriend." be just as alpha or no? cause for some reason I'm a bit more comfortable with that one.

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how good looking is she?
and what about u?
looks matter a lot until she has enough rapport wit u.
tell me 1-10 her and ur attractiveness


and wat about u? social status means somewhat too
like a band geek will have a aharder time gettin a hot club girl
while a party boy will have a hard time gettin a hot book nerd

I would want to know why she acts cold when her friends are around. This is a big red flag. Do her friends not approve of her, or is there a guy amongst her friends that has peeked her interest? You need to find out what the deal is before you try turning this into an ltr.

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do i just...ask her this? cause she told me one of her guy friends had a thing with her earlier in the year but she's over that. but maybe her friends aren't. or she really ISN'T over him. so do i just flat-out ask "so I noticed you have no problem with being affectionate in public except when we're somewhere that your friends or someone in your building can see. What's the problem?"

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I may have jumped the gun in my last post.

Don't ask her anything, you also have to keep in mind that she is socializing and mingling with friends. She may not be all over you at that particular time because she is with her group. Would you want a girl jumping all over you and showering you with kisses when you're with your boys? Probably not.

If I was in that situation, the next time we hung out in her building, I would socialize and have a good time and not worry about what she is doing. I would talk to other guys, girls, etc...and watch her behavior. Does she come over and try to get your attention, is she oblivious to what you are doing, does she smile and wink at you from across the room? Watch her behavior THEN make a decision.

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See that'd be fantastic...if I hung out with her friends. I met them once for her formal. It's not when we're around her friends. It's just anywhere near her building. When I'm in her room, it's fine, all over me. When we're walking around campus or the city, it's fine, holding hands, kissing me. When I'm outside her building, in the hallway on her floor, in the lobby. Maybe a hug, but she'll move her face if I go to kiss her, and I called her on it once and she said "you came at me at a weird angle."

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she prob likes u but her friends think ur a loser or somethin

1 of 3 things is happening...your insecurities are starting to surface because your seeing other girls and you are starting to nit pick every little thing she does, she is worried about what her friends think, or she has something going on with someone in the building.

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My insecurities may be surfacing and I may be overthinking but she most definitely acts different. But do I bring it up to her? Or just tell her I want her to be my girlfriend and see how she responds? Cause then I feel I'd get the truth and an answer to the relationship question and in one fell swoop have this situation with her either move to the next level or I'll know to walk away.

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The next time you are in or around her building, try to hold her hand or kiss her. Try to be affectionate and see if it triggers her 'coldness'. If it does....in a cool, relaxed manner say 'I'm curious about something, do you have some weird phobia about showing me affection in this area'...then look around and say 'wait, there isn't some weird guy watching you through a pair of binoculars is there.?

After she is done with her bull$hit reason, say 'o.k., I just noticed this about you...I find it interesting', then leave it at that. This will give you a little more incite into what she has bouncing around her head, and you will keep a high status in the process.

But, whatever you do, DO NOT ask her to be your girlfriend...unless you want to slide into AFCville.

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that right there I will definitely try. But I didn't mean ask, I would've used your suggestion of "I think I'm gonna make you my girlfriend." But I suppose I'll gain this incite before going ahead with that.

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