I had a gf for about 3-4 months and the last few weeks she got really jealous that i was flirting with other girls and froze me out for a week or so and i got really needy and started putting her on a pedestal. She started being kind of cold for the last couple days so I figured she would dump me because I was being AFC and I dumped her first. She was super angry/needy the first couple of days and she texted me a million times but about a week ago she said that shes tried everything and she cant chase me anymore and I havent heard from her since. I've been gaming other girls but I was planning on getting back with her but I don't want to be put in the position where I will be the one doing the chasing. Any Suggestions? Do you guys think she'll chase more or do you think if I just called her she would be willing to fix things?

Very good position to be in my friend. Once a girl senses you don't need her, she WANTS and needs you. I would in your position continue gaming the other women and also give your ex a little message or text back. "Hey, i wasent trying to ignore you i was just really busy with blahblah" Keep it simple, make her wonder..and keep her around.

Good luck

hmm isn't it just a better idea to wait it out? the thing is that I have a bit of time constraint because we were supposed to go to Miami over break and flights keep going up but I don't want to do anything rash.

Waiting it out never works to your disadvantage, but some girls wouldnt ever talk to you again if you ignored them for a long period of time.

either wait longer, or message her soon

hmm thanks. anyone else have some input?

the problem i have had with freeze outs is that once you let them back into your life, they seem to eventually find a way to freeze you out. I once froze a girl out for three months. I did it this long because i really didnt want to talk to her, not because i was gaming her. I received messages from her everyday for the first two months, it was crazy. She all but stalked me. Then, when i got horny, and started talking to her again, she flaked on me every chance she got. Now we dont talk anymore.
The problem is, when you first start talking to someone, you develop a trust that that person is going to respond to your texts and calls. When you freeze someone out, it destroys that trust. I think for you to get her back, you need to 1) deny the fact that you were freezing her out in the first place 2) Make her meet you half way so it doesn't seem like you are begging for her to come back.

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i always wondered if there was some sort of delayed reverse-freezeout response. i'm thought that maybe there is. sounds like it happened to you.

So any advice?

Sorry bro...no advice from me, just sort of a similar situation with questions wondering about what to do next.

I recently had a dinner date with a chick I've seen like 5 times in two months, she lives far away and complained about the distance. I grew too attached to her too soon and she's given me some signs that she doesnt want to date. At the end of our last date on Tuesday, we said goodbye and gave her a hug. Then went for a kiss with she did not push away, it wasnt a total makeout session either, just a 5 second kiss. I havent communicated with this girl yet (as it would seem like I wasnt getting the hints) and wonder if there is any way of patching the 'relationship' by freezing her out. I'm assuming I should just move on, but the cut is still fresh. Also wondering about female psychology...once they're over a guy is that it?

i would stop the freeze out and then be sure not to give her any reason to freeze you out. its a tough transistion

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