Something I have really struggled with is contacting girls I meet at parties (usually when we are both intoxicated) the next morning. I almost always get a phone number, and nine times out of ten, I fail to further our relationship, unless I see them at another party. My problem is that when I text them in the morning, the conversation usually dries up and leaves me with nothing to say.

Here is the situation I am in now:

I met a solid HB10 at a frat party this weekend. It was 1:30am when I met her, and we were both pretty drunk. I used a few of my favorite lines to make her qualify herself and eventually had her crawling all over me. We made out and talked for an hour before the DD picked her up and took her home. The best part was that she initiated the first kiss. I didn't get her to my room, but things went very well to say the least.

The next day, I texted her "What's up?" She brought up a joke about the night before and I played off it in my response. She didn't respond. Not wanting to give up, I waited an hour before sending her "what are you up to today?"
She replied, "work ." Partly because I didn't have reception, and partly because I saw that the conversation was drying up, I didn't respond to her, and haven't since. I have read allot of the threads on this website and watched some videos and the common consensus seems to be that a text message needs to be intriguing, should have some way of leading to a date, and shouldn't necessarily require a response (eliminating the threat of her flaking out). However, I can't think of anything that meets these standards. Any suggestions?

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I'm curious...what was the joke regarding the night before...what was your response?

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ok the thing is you need to stop developing a text relationship and only use text to get her to meet you again. Or only text her to be playfull and not talk bout random stuffs like: what are you up to today, it's boring.

I don't know what's the context but if you want to ask questions, don't ask questions like what she did today just say, we really need to meet again, this was too short last time. Or something silly like, " i really want to see this movie. tonight. what time do i pick you up?". doesn't matter how cliche it is who cares the point that should go through is: you're confident, you want to see her. And then it's up to her, according to the impression she had of you when you met. There is nothing much you can do by text to make develop the first impression she had when you met irl, so don't try. Just ask her to meet again in not too boring way.

I feel like that would work if i had met her in class when we were both sober. For those of you unfamiliar with greek life at public universities, girls flock to popular fraternities on the weekend to meet guys, dance to loud music, play drinking games, and get free drinks. Most people binge drink and it is not uncommon for girls to be approached and have conversations with over twenty guys a night. I say this because it makes things difficult the next day. The person you are texting isn't the same person you met the night before, and you aren't either. Sometimes, it isn't even safe to assume that they remember you. Asking her out over text without any messages preceding it seems like it would be too easy for her to ignore and too awkward to respond to. I can see it working, but it seems to be the equivalent of going all in on your first hand in poker. I might still do it but my gut feeling is that she won't respond, and at best, will make a cheap excuse.

Thanks for the suggestion though

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I had her convinced that i was from her hometown in New York (which would be highly unlikely since we were at a Nebraska University frat party). I later told her that I was kidding and asked what I should text her tomorrow. She told me to say "its John from Casanovia"

Here's how the conversation went the next day:

me: what's up?
her: That's not what we agreed on.
me: oh right, its john, the casanovian
me: what are you up to today?
her: work

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"bahh true where do you work?" ...

she was probably a little disappointed you didn't remember the deal from the night before, but that's okay.

here's your game plan bro:

wait a few days then give her a call. she probably won't pick up, so just leave her a message saying that you've been super busy but that you were just thinking about her and what a fun night you had.

she might pick up, she might call you back, if she does, great, have a short convo with her (10-15 mins of get to know you bullshit/comfort building - this needs to be rebuilt from the night where you guys met - drop at least one sexual comment, doesn't have to be obvious "fuck you were smoking on friday, do you always look so good?")

if she doesn't, that's cool, life's busy, wait a couple days and tell her you're going to x on y and that she should come along OR ask her what she's doing, when she doesn't have plans tell her "awesome! you're coming out with me to x, i'll pick you up at y, wear something cute!"

thats all? why did you stop?
you stopped after she said work??
you should have kept on little convo here.

yeah i agree, you shouldn't have stopped texting her when you did. to keep the conversation flowing you'd need to ask her intriguing questions, or if you think you already build enough comfort and attraction the night before (I'd say your k-close result tells you that you've already got that down) arrange a second meeting.

if you don't she'll keep giving you one word answers (like 'work') or just ignore you completely, then it will go stale.

ya i guess i kind of fucked myself, it seemed like the right thing to do at the time. I texted her last night and it went pretty well. I will probably ask her out this weekend. Logistics are kind of tricky because she works so much.

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