| Yes...sadly. It's more than normal. It's so normal it's a statistic, at this point.
What I've found helpful is to find the root cause of the problem, and identify it. As with addiction, the first step is admitting you have a problem. Ask yourself, seriously, why your ex stopped wanting to see you. In your words, she "decide to be a bitch". Why?
Anger, from my own personal experience, is always originally directed inward, and then we change that to find someone to act as a scapegoat. We, as humans, can not DIRECTLY affect another person. I mean that on the most basic of levels. The only way we can affect other people is through our own actions, which at first involve affecting ourselves.
I had a similiar experience, the details of which aren't important, but I was angry at someone because I felt that I had been rejected and blamed this person. Then, after I calmed down (and sobered up) I searched myself for the root cause. The reason for my anger, was that I hadn't been able to attract the girl. I'll say that again. I wasn't able to make her attracted to me. The problem, then wasn't this other person, it was me. Instead of depressing me, this thought cheered me up greatly. Because if it was me, then I could do something about it.
Even the most famous PUAs have fallen victim to these natural impulses. The most obvious example being from the GAME when Mystery flipped out. After reflection, he realised the cause, and moved on. Blaming other people is a normal reaction, and letting it affect you is a natural progression from that as you feel there's nothing that can be done, but when you truly look at it, and realize that there is something that you can do, it becomes a learning experience.
It's similiar to getting bit by a dog. You get mad at the dog, but maybe you shouldn't have put your hand in it's mouth. Live and learn.
That's just my opinion anyway. Anyone else?
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"This above all: to thy own self be true.
And it must follow, as the night the day,
Thou canst not then be false to any man."
(Polonius, Shakespeare's "Hamlet")
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