usually if a girl is interested in you. is she willing to talk to the person even though she is very busy, stress and tired because of school project and sport activities?(maybe doesnt have to be all 3 above)

cuz it happens to me. if the answer is yes then im gonna assume this girl is showing IOD on me. she isnt texting me or msn me at all.

if you look at my other post i think you will understand why. totally afc
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yup yup i know i make a mistake but come on, sometime people fucked up right?

i know you guys gonna say move on but it's like im gonna give up? thats it? i hate losing. i feel like i let her control if i give up, i dont want that.

currently im freeze out right now, already 6 days. im online on msn right now and she didnt talk to me at all. she usually start a convo if we didnt talk for a long time.

what im planning to do is straight foward to her on msn and said, " hey..are we strangers now?"

any other word i should say? or just keep it quiet?

if i have no choice, i will just give up then. such a waste... this girl is rare kind and have potential to be in my LTR

(apologize for my english, hope you can help on this)

I know what u mean by u cant let it go that easily..it feels unfair. but you should definitly bring it to her attention, because thats how u really feel right?

And dont worry about what to say, let ur feelings type the words for you, and dont worry about hurting her feelings or hoping she doesnt think bad about you because right now you have to say whats really on your mind not what SHE wants to hear.
(AlphaMaleTrait)

And if she doesnt like what u have to say...on to the next one. if she wants you she'll come back

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so this has nothing to do with busy and tiredness? its just an excuse? because if i straightfoward to her, she will reason me with busy doing projects and shit. what should i say back then?

she still have the gift that she was gonna give me. does she forgot about it? goddammit this girl is confusing.

exactly. i mean dont get me wrong, sometimes life gets in the way and she really is tired or busy but if a girl is interested in you she will ALWAYS get back to you.

If she reasons with "i was busy" or "I have to finish this project by blah blah blah",
you might have to start letting her do some of the chasing instead of you. Have you confronted her yet?

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i havent confront her yet. how do i get her to start chasing me back? what should i say to confront her?

ok the first thing you should do when you can front her is dont hold anything back that your really feeling. for example after you say "Hey are we strangers?" follow up with you telling her how you feel about the whole situation in a way thats not obsessive but letting her know your point. A good way to jump in to it is "hey i have something to tell you..you dont have to reply but just listen.."

to fully know what to say next depending on her answer, i can help you with the next step.

This girl i was trying to get for months just kept holding everything in and i didnt like it so i told her how i felt about her and said "if you dont feel the same way its fine i just had to tell you that" and it turned out that she just had issues with trusting people.

Remember man sometimes its not what YOUR doing wrong...its the girl...
sometimes we forget that they arent as secure as they make themselves out to be.

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thanks dude, i will try this. btw do you mind if i add you on msn chat or something. easier to help me out.

no problem man and yea i have a windows messenger for IM-ming. whats your contact?

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