Due to circumstances, one of them being her having a child who has to be in bed by a certain time, she can't come over or go out. Therefore, what are some ways you could invite yourself over to a girls place for a movie or to chill. I work until 8, but I was thinking about shooting her a text around 7:30 and seeing if she wanted me to come over. But whats a good text to send? A clever way to invite myself over I mean.

I was thinking "Hey i'm getting out of work at 8, and I'm in the mood to watch [insert movie], but I don't own it. What do ya think?"

And I would insert a movie that I know she owns. Or does anyone have some more clever/wittier lines?

I would tell her something like, I have some Pizza, want some? Simple but works.

Or I would say something like, I just bought this movie while I was working and I am around your way, Lets watch it. Cool?

I would highly recommend a phone conversation, rather than text unless you have already gone over her house and she is comfortable with you already.

While in phone conversation, at least you can hype the movie up and indirectly convince to wanna watch it. I would act like she will live the movie....

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We've known each other for years. "Talked" a couple of years ago ... then I get all needy and fucked things up.

Now i'm repairing that and she's getting into it again. Definitely some IOI's, but she is somewhat stubborn.

So just go for it. Say that you are around her way, but find out if she is not busy, then say that you have X and you want to share it with her. That simple.

Now, it is even more important that you do not over-emphasize with this one girl only. I hope that this is not one of those cases of oneitis where you are infatuated by the girl and you have no real chance with her.

You have to be real with yourself. If you cannot get her (which is likely because she has alrdy established notions about you from your past failures), you have to go elsewhere. Then once you fuck enough girls and gain some balls (confidence), then go back and re-seduce her.

Just be real with yourself and notice if you have oneitis....

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The bolded section already happened. I was talking to her a few years ago, got oneitis and she dropped all contact. I went out, got another GF, fucked other girls, and now a couple years later she saw me at a friends house and told me that I seemed really different and was giving me IOI's (sitting next to me on a loveseat, rather than on the empty couch across the room, playing with her hair, going through my phone...etc).

The problem is, i'm scared (due to past rejection by her) to invite myself over. So i'm just trying to think of a good text or something. We've been texting each other a few times per week for the past month, so it's not completely out of the blue or anything.

does she live in the same place? if she doesn't you can always ask "living in the same place?" and if she says no just tell her she is "rude for not inviting you over and showing me your new place lol".

most women with kids are DLV even if they put up a strong front. they know that they are damaged goods, don't get me wrong they can be nice and what not. But from personal experience though they may be "independent and strong" (whatever that means) they usually lower their standards some what.

you have already gotten past the harder parts, so don't panic about being rejected because you have already "been there and done that". If you are feeling really nervous just keep doing what your doing while casually flirting with this girl.

You really should reconsider her importance to you. If you start with your fears, you will be a chode like you were before. She sees you different, then act different. Just go for it. The worse that could happen is a "no" response which is not that bad. At least she will see you as a risk taker. As long as you dont take the rejection bad, she will she that you are a real man finally.

I am telling you, you gotta be a man and go for what you want with no fear of rejection. Rejection is the thought losers have. Winners see suceess in their mind more than losers do. It all has to do with the mind frame that you possess. She will feel that...

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