| well since I have no idea how you look already I'm just going to go with basics here, wear clothes that fit, nothing too baggy, nothing too tight. you don't need to have your hair looking all sophisticated, but you don't want to look like shaggy from scooby doo(unless you're just trying to hook up with stoners). go to your local stylist, don't settle for a barber shop, you want a hair styling salon, sure it'll cost a bit more but they know a bit more, talk to the stylist and get an idea of something that you both can agree on, they've been doing it a while(and hopefully have good taste) the thing is you don't just want something that makes you feel sexy, you want something that someone else thinks is sexy. make sure to keep up with skin care, make sure to keep up with hygiene, get products to exfoliate your skin, don't use cheap razors when shaving(if you shave), make sure that if you have a beard you keep it trimmed up and neat, also edging around it works too. if you go for the stubble look make sure to get an electric beard trimmer with a guard on it and keep up with trimming it. as for clothing stay away from clothes with large logos on it, there's nothing wrong with wearing designer clothes but you want to be you, and not a walking billboard. that's about all I can think of for appearance at the moment, now to move on to body language. don't slouch, ever. always keep an upright posture, if you're standing still don't put your hands in your pockets and don't cross your arms, if you're like me and having hands by your side is unnatural then hook your thumbs in your back pocket or in your front belt loops. keep your feet about a should width apart. keep your chin up, there is no reason to look at the ground. keep your chest out, not too far, just a little bit, to give you that "squared away" look. and always think confidently, pick out a list of things you like about yourself, write them down, go over the list every morning when you wake up and every night before you go to sleep, look in the mirror and tell yourself these things. don't use terms like "I think I'm attractive" though, instead go for "I am attractive" "I am funny" "people like me" stuff like that, and tell yourself this every day. I hope this stuff helps, if you have anything else you'd like to ask me feel free to send me a message or just reply, I try to keep up on every topic I post to. Good luck
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