Hey guys

I'm on erasmus in a foreign european country for now. All the time I've been meeting other people, up to the point where almost everyone knows me. When at a party, it is often the case people run up to me to salute me, but I don't even know who they are (i forgot there name, etc). (Read: this is all in the setting of a disco/party scene)

I can move easily from one group of people i know, to the others, around all the place.

The problem however lies in the fact that all those people who know me, aren't really close friends. I could stay with them maybe 20 minutes, but not the whole evening. I DO have close friends, but they aren't the people going to the kind of parties i like to go to. I spend more time with them taking a drink, or watching a game.

The point is that i feel like kind of alpha, but i'm not able of taking advantage of it in terms of girls. I've had over the couple of months 2 girls willing to sleep with me. The second became a LTR which was a very big mistake (never met such an immature girl), hence i lost 2 months of time.
I feel like i'm out of the game, girls talk to me, they all know me, but i'm not able to take advantage... Conversations are small, meaningless, and mostly annoying cause they just want to dance with theire other girlfriends.


Any opinions on how to exploit more alpha male position?

Thanks a lot.
A.

While it is a good sign that women come up to you to talk I would take a proactive step and engage them in conversation. There are a few threads on keeping conversation interesting. What i have found to help is think of a story that is relevant to what they might talk about. I always draw a crowd when i am telling one of my stories.

You want to be the main attraction, stories help out with this as most people will ask a random question here and there. Or they will be in rapture of your story as long as you keep things exciting. Think of a cat, when you dangle the string they go after it but once it stops moving they get bored and go about their business.

Keep them entertained and pick one girl in particular you want to talk to, keep eye contact incorporate her into your story so on and so forth. Whenever I'm feeling down I remember something that I read on the Tucker Max site. When he was self doubting he just looked himself at the mirror and said "I'm Tucker Max, and everything will be alright" or something to that effect. Build yourself up psychologically and nothing can get in your way but yourself.