It really annoys me when girls are texting when they are hanging out with me. Does this annoy you too? What do you do about it? Do you think girls just do this sometimes as a test to see how you will react?

Here’s how I recently handled it: I was just out with this girl on a second date. When we were driving to the date location she kept texting her realtor about houses she’s looking to buy. She also answered a call from a friend briefly. I ignored it and kept talking to her. We went shopping and to dinner and she didn’t text at all. The date was great. Good convo, lots of kino, lots of fun. Then she started the texting up again on the way home. I was annoyed but didn’t show it. I figured if she is going to text than let her text, and I simply stopped trying to make convo. So the last 5 minutes of the drive was in silence. I got pretty far with her physically on the 1st date but didn’t even try to kiss her this time. I just gave her a hug. What do you think of how I handled it? My strategy was to ignore this bad behavior, and certainly not reward it with my physical affection.

If a girl has to make a text or two, no big deal. But when girls do this excessively, I think it’s disrespectful and/or a test. I personally put my phone on silent on a date and give the girl all my attention.

You should have called her out, don't let her pull that bullshit on you. Tell her "Look, you have major problem on conversation/phone etiquette, I originally thought you're fun and interesting, but you have no respect for my time so let's call it a night"
If you ignore it, and don't talk about it, she will never figure it out. She might think you're ignoring her because of something else. Women subconsciously want men that have balls to call their bs out and put them in their place.
Once you tell her that's you won't accept that behavior, now it's all in the clear, if she does it again, you can ignore/punish her and she will know the reason and will behave.
If she doesn't change, ditch her.

HB: *Whips out phone and starts texting*
PUA: *Grabs phone, shuts it, places it face down next to her, all while smiling*

If you did this right, she'll have a :O/smiling type of face.

I would do a mix of calling her out and what you did Swerve which was stop talking when she started to text. Once she starts to text I stop talking and wait for her to finish. When she finish I ask her if she was done texting. And will also ask her who she was texting, and asking her if this is something she does on dates. As well as ask her if I was boring her. At the same time show that I am not upset by it but very much hint that I find it disrespectful. Another thing you can do is stop talking and pull out your cell phone and play with it while she does her thing with hers. For style points you wait until she puts hers away first and wait a couple seconds (long enough for her to notice you have your cell phone out) and then put yours away, and say "what where we talking about again?" or something like that. Ie you got distracted. I know this is not as direct, but I bet you most girls will notice such behavior from you and if they call you out on it just you thought you where boring them as they where busy with their cell phone.

I don't about others, but my general rule is if a girl text messages on a first date without prior knowledge or has a good excuse, I won't date her again. I get that people have lives and I don't expect them to put their lives on hold while they are on a date with me but I do at the very least expect them to be respectful.

The only time I would not do this is if the girl tells me up front that she is expecting to get a text message about something and/or that she is on call due to her job (ie she is a nurse or something). Then I would excuse it as I find such reasons acceptable.

If a chick is texting while your out with her, I feel it simply means your not doing your shit.

I was recently out with a chick having a great time and then there was this gap where nothing was going on an she whipped out her phone and started to text. I simply told myself " I gotta get my shit together an make this date so fun she feels no need to text." and I did.

You must ignore it either way, you don't wanna come across as a pussy who wants all her attention. Let whoever she's talking to her have her for a little bit. Control your frame well enough she will never text. Think about it, did she whip out the phone in the middle of Huge flirty kino shit, Like the best points of the date? I doubt it; so I suggest you make every point like this. Work on becoming a better date mate.

Also chicks hate to be bored an I'm sure you'll rather her text than to feel bored with you. Think about it like this " if you were living with a chick would you get annoyed of she was texting while in the same room as you?". I sure hope not.

Texting is becoming a big part of pop culture so I suggest you accept, ignore it an stop bitching to yourself about it or become a more fun person to be around, makig everyone feel completely content an in the moment.. Fuck it do both

Hope I helped

Fuze

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LMAO This is funny as shit@! I want to try it. But I doubt most girls will react that way anyways.

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Good suggestions all around guys.

Fuze, I get that women hate being bored and no the texting wasn't at high points in the date. I know that I have to be fun and I was. However, when you spend several hours with a girl there is usually going to be a little down time and that should be ok. I'm not her personal entertainer or stand up comedian that is responsible for constantly pumping up her state for four hours straight. She has to make an effort as well.

Also, if you're living with someone it's normal to text around each other sometimes...though it can still be disrespectful if it gets out of hand.

Texting on a 2nd date is completely different.

i'd say...

"The only thing you are allowed to play with in this car ... is ME."

"Now put the phone down and get to slobbin."

It works. When my ex and I were getting.....romantic, and she got a text she HAD to answer it. So I grabbed her phone, turned it off and slid it under her bed.

She smiled and gasped. You dont have to put up with that BS man

Ok dude.. The other point I tried to make in that post was " so what! Let her text stop bitching" she's out with you an not them who cares. She's yours, no one she's texting can interact with her the way you are at that moment. So worry about that an that alone. Don't sweat the small stuff.. There's wars an famine going on in the world; who gives a fuck if a chick texts while out on a date with me. That's petty afc bullshit. Get over it.. Once you adopt that frame, a girl won't text around you anyways because she knows it's not getting under your skin. Be a man dude.

That seemed a little vulgar, I mean it with love tho.
I'd tell it the same way to my Buddies or my brother.

Peace

I'd say it was AFC to put up with it, your happy being ignored? Aren't you supposed to be high value?

If the texting is here and there when your walking or whatever, fine text away. But if your having dinner or some intimate setting, GTFO the phone!

Um how exactly?

I get what your saying. But its the small stuff that leads to the big stuff tho. That is something a lot of people don't seem to get. Call it a snow ball effect. First you got a small snow ball rolling down a hill, nothing to worry about right its small. But as it rolls down the hill more it gets bigger and bigger. Pretty soon its as big as a car, can you ignore it now? I doubt it. My point is if you allow such behavior it will lead to other undesired behavior (this is assuming you don't accept such behavior). I agree there is no reason to get mad over this, but this is not to say one can not find such behavior disrespecting. What do you think the girl would think if you did this to her? Do you think she would accept it?

Then find a new chick to game then, because every chick i go with text every now and then while we're out. Like a said it's a popular part of pop culture. You expect someone to be out with you for 3-5 hours and ignore everyone else in thier lives? Most chicks are talking to multiple guys at the time you guys first start dating anyway. So if you do your shit right you don't have to worry. Then again if you are letting Chix annoy you, I'd be worried. My rate of success is always a lot higher when nothing the chick does can get to me. Once your start to get emotionily effected; you may wanna ask yourself if your too invested into the interaction too soon. You wouldn't care if your guy friends did it, so why her? She isn't your property. Give her the same respect you would a guy friend. She can do what she wants, you can let her know it bothers you ( I wouldn't) but if she still does it after you complain about it you'll only feel worse. So I say...so what! *shrug*

If me an you hung out for the 2nd time an I texted at dull moments would it annoy you?
Why should the chick be treated any different?

You barely even know each other

There is a reason why I like to keep my dates under 3 hrs, at least at the start of things. It is primary to avoid any downtime and reduce any chances of her getting bored enough to pull out her cell phone to text someone. As you mention its the 1st date, you barely know the girl so why spend more than 3 hrs with the girl on the 1st date? Granted if you and the girl really hit it off I see no reason not to go over the 3 hr mark, but I like to keep the girl wanting more.

I don't get annoyed with it. I just find it disrespectful thats all. I don't invest anything emotional upfront. As the way I see it, dating is like investing in stocks. You first have to get to know the stock before you decide to invest money in it. If there are quirks about the stock/date that I don't like then I find another stock/date to invest in. Its that simple to me at least.
The girl can do what ever she wants to do. I am not going to stop her from pulling out her cell phone and text someone. She has every right do do that. I am not going to stop her from doing it. This does not mean I have to accept such behavior tho. The way I see it girls that text on the 1st date do it generally for two reasons; they are bored/lost interest, or have a habit of texting people. When it comes to respect, my cell phone is turned off on the date unless I need it on for some reason. Is it not fair to at least expect the same from the girl? Granted if she doesn't do this then she isn't for me and you be right about that.
Do you consider you hanging out with your friends the same as going out on dates with a girl? Seems like it. To me they are not the same. But then again I am more traditional when it comes to the whole dating thing.


Fuze let me ask you this do you pull out your cell phone on a 1st date?