Btw i have a serious case of oneitus right now. idk what to do.

This girl and I went out one night going around the city, she's this chick i'v known for ever. i'll call her an hb7 but her personalty makes her a 10. Every dude i know in this stupid city has tried at least once to get with this girl haha, we've liked each other before but we always were just friends, which i was kinda cool with of cause i didn't really care, she dated a couple of my friends..

we went back to my house, were just hanging out in my room and usually im nervous as hell but i was in a total cool chill mindset. we talked for a couple hours and i think i really fucked up when i told her to much about myself. family storys, shitty times.. etc. I was laying down and she was sitting and i noticed as the time went on she would get more and more comfortable, she got under the blankets and started rubbing my arm. i just sat there talking without giving any notice at all. then SHE eventually kissed ME. haha

she left at 8am we stayed up the whole night, and i liked the hell out of her ever more, i know she liked me to, but one day she started acting strange. talked to her on facebook and we get into some argument. which eventualy lead to me totaly breaking down like a huuge AFC Moran, she stopped talking to me and i just got fedup and deleted her. that was a couple weeks ago, and last night she sent a message saying "really.."

i replyed back saying really wuut?
and sent her a poke and she sent one back...?

i dont know weather to be happy or sad but this nonsence has to end.
did she give me an opening to try and fix all the damage i caused?
i really need advice, one-itus is making me want to shit myself!!

well...how should i say this mate...you def did screw up
but on the bright side, all relationships can be repaired especially when shes into you as much as you said she was. so best thing would be, if shes a girl you wana date seriously if shes just a girl you wana hook up with then you gotta do things differently, to get her to meet you again for a coffee per say since you still have her phone number (but do not beg to see her. that would just ruin the whole thing for you. try to play a little push and pull if you can if not then just be normal, thats probably the safest way to go). when you meet up you have your chance to figure out why you fought and to resolve it so that both of you are happy and kool in the end. and once shes over her issues about the argument youre pretty much back in position to play the field. of course, you probably wont be able to k-close her the same day but you can work on building up the confidence so that she would hang out with you again, ideally in a date setting.


just a side note:

first, i wouldnt add her on fb at least until we meet again and talk but the better way would be if she added you...

second, if a girl goes up to your place thats usually an IOI (unless if she comes over everyday/youre only a friend in her eyes and vice versa, etc). if she hangs out with you in your room alone (IOI), on your bed (IOI), at night untill 8am (IOI) that really means that she thinks youre more than just a friend... and when she kisses you the light bulb shouldve lit up in your head and realize that hey, she wants me. she wants to fool around...
so im just sayin that you gotta watch out for the IOIs all the time coz you never know and if you play the cards right you might have even ended up with a lay that night and a gf by now, right? so just take risks... worst case scenario is that she gets up and goes home... youve got nothing to lose mate


as for the poke on fb... in my opinion you should never get too excited about anything when its presented in an electronic form (txt msg, fb chat, fb poke, msn smiles, etc) because people use them without putting any emotions, thoughts, real feelings behind them and if you get your hopes up about a poke and it turns out that she never wants to see your face again, she was just being nice poking you back..............you`ll feel like crap

anyways, chin up and set up that meeting. good luck mate.

cheers

Thank you for your advice. I might be able to change things, but then again it might be to late.

At first when we chilled at my house, i was sure it was a friend type thing. So i opened up in a friend way. Told her all the details in my life. pretty much i treated her like a therapist lol. Which was cool untill the old feelings we had came back out of no where. Usually when you open like that to any girl all the fun out of the relationship is gone the next day because they know you TO well. (kinda like a lame one night stand)

we talked for a week later and everything seemed great, but i couldn't get her to hang out again, she would say she would.. then she would blow me off, i didn't take it to seriously but i was getting frustrated which leaded to being needy(i was fully aware but i couldn't stop myself from fucking up the neediness.)

and one night i lost it. my total AFC kicked in, and it was a train wreck.
that and i had oneitus like a moutherfucker ha.
ill try and work things out, ill just go slow and patient this time.