A little backstory.

Had a chance with this girl about 6 months ago. I was traveling, and ran into a HB I know. She ended up asking me out via email that same day. I didn't get it until I got home, so we set up a happy hour to hang back home. That meet up went awful. I came off needy, so I stepped back and started reading these forums

Fast-forward to the first of this year and I ran into her. Turns out she got a new job, which means I now see here almost everyday. Since then, I've started playing and DHVing her. I've been pretty impressed with how good it has worked. She has been texting with me, flirting during the day and getting into flirty conversations about sex via text each night.

Anyway, my issue is that throughout all the conversations on making out, sex and stuff, she continues to throw out these shit tests. At first I thought she was just doing it to entice me but last night she texts me out of no where abo needing to vent about a guy she had been interested in but pissed her off. I tried to play it off, and did turn the conversation back to us.

I'm not sure, her intentions as it is pretty obvious that she is somewhat interested in me. She wants to go out, and even warned me that she will probably want to make out if we do. She is obviously a player, and very hard to read. I just can't tell if she is doing this as move, or if I'm getting stuck in friend mode.

Thoughts or advice on?

If you are texting her back right away, stop. Wait a little before you respond, it keeps her wondering what you are doing. It sounds like she has interest in you, but it kind of sounds like she has the power.

She mentioned she wants to go out with you some night and make out. Next time she says something like that respond with "we can go out, but that doesnt mean we are hooking up. Im not a slab of meat, you have to earn that privelage" or something to that effect.

You are right, she has the power. I don't know how it happened, but she flipped it on me. I started out with no concerns if she cared, and the moment I started caring again, she beats me over the head by mentioning another guy. That's why I think I'm getting played.

also, she might be fucking nuts.

i get it, these are forums for making ourselves better, but sometimes what gets lost in that equation is that, frankly, some women are goddamn insane.

i just got out of a relationship with a woman who did constant non-stop shittests. no matter how i rebuffed them, she persisted and persevered. it was literally never-ending. she was not seeking a real relationship in any healthy sense, she was actually looking to dominate an AFC.

think about this. most women shit test to rule out the AFC's.

others shit test to get their clutches on an AFC and make his life a living hell. (these are the fucking whackjobs)

if despite your kickass efforts to rebut the shittests, if they keep coming at odd and random or inappropriate times or in ridiculous amounts, you might be dealing with a fucking whackjob.

this is my two cents, but i really am a rookie at this stuff. i'd be up for anybody to critique my pov. it's cool.