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Rejection is a good thing, its the best way to learn. But it is important that you are being rejected because of the learning curve, and not for some kind of thrill.
Some guys have a self-defeating mindset, in the sense that they go out expecting to be rejected. These guys enjoy being rejected because it proves they were right about their expectations. Unfortunately, these guys tend not to realize that it was the self-defeating attitude that most likely lead to the rejection.
All guys have a certain amount of this self-defeating mindset in some way or form. We allow ourselves to have what we think we deserve. Everyone thinks they deserve a certain level of quality, comparable to their overall self-esteem. If we get more than we think we deserve, we tend to self-sabotage to rid ourselves of that which we don't think we should have. This might be women, it might be a job, it might be money, it might be a family. It doesn't matter what, the mental process is still the same.
I don't know you. This may have nothing to do with you. But it is important to understand this sub-conscious mental process because it tends to limit a lot of guys overall success.
When I take students out, we do some exercises to get into the right frame of mind - which is (i) Having FUN and (ii) Not giving a SHIT. To aid in that process, we spend time doing some retarded shit like saying the WORST chat-up lines ever, or playing the silence game
http://www.youtube.com/user/Sashathepua ... 0Qry8p1Ba4
What this does is get the student to realise that
The WORST thing that can possibly happen is the girl says "no" and walks away. And that's if you say the most ridiculous crap EVER!
Even if you're being REALLY WEIRD, the girl will actually often stand there and listen to you! Grab her interest with almost ANYTHING a little out of the ordinary, and she'll be intrigued by you.
=> Imagine what would happen if you came up and had the balls to say something NICE to her in a SINCERE way!
CHAT
