Bare with my week long story & help an AFC become a PUA. Tell me what I did right/wrong and what I should do now:
I've been occasionally visiting a local bar to establish rapport with the hot bartender there. Last Sunday, I visited, and she wasn't there, but a cute waitress was. I chatted up the new girl, she had a round of mind-erasers with me & my friends and took out her camera to take a picture with us. As I left, I number closed her casually mentioning that we should go for drinks or something. I didn't give her my number though (I was thinking she might be curious to answer an unknown number, and that it would prevent flaking out on a phone call).
2 days later, I went back with a buddy... and remember seeing her there, but then blacked out from too much beer (supposedly I was talking with her blacked out) :\
The next day, wanting to connect the puzzle pieces, and see if I blew it, I called her. She picked up (out of curiosity of the unknown #):
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"Hey, is this #girlsname?"
--Yeah, who's this?
"It's So-N-So, from the #barname"
--Oh, hey yeah, I just left school, and am driving. Wasn't going to pick up, but didn't know whose number this was. (It took her a second, but she remembered)
"I'm just calling to apologize, I had a bit much to drink last night, and honestly don't know if I did or said anything stupid last night"
--No, no, you were fine. Don't apologize. You weren't loud or obnoxious. (thank God)
"Okay that's good to hear. I wasn't sure if I had a conversation with you or what, so you just finished teaching?" (she's a sub-teach also)
--Yeah, I have to go to the bar and see if I'm working tonight. I have to run, text me sometime.
"Okay, cool I'll text you later then."
She was friendly on the phone, but seemed rushed, and the conversation only lasted about a minute. 6 hours later, I text her "Hey, whose bar tending tonight? Any cute substitute teachers?" She mentioned she bar tends there as well, and I was trying to be witty instead of sending a boring "hey what's up" text. She didn't ever text back.
Did I f'k this up by blacking out, by apologizing for my actions in a phone call, or sending a questionably witty text? Should I call/text again, or talk to her again in person at the bar.
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Back to the original hot bartender that I was going there for originally to build rapport with: Last night after dropping in for a drink with friends, we chatted and I found out she and a friend I was there with knew each other from middle school. My friends went downstairs to the other bar, and as I closed my tab, I number closed her saying
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Hey, so you & #mutualfriend knew eachother way back hm?
--Yeah, we went to middle school together
Cool, are you going out drinking tomorrow in #thelocalarea?
--Yeah, I'll probably be out around here somewhere.
You should come hang out with "us", what's your number? I'll call and see where you're at so we can all get together tomorrow.
I handed her my phone, got the number, and left.
Do you think, I should number close differently? I feel as if including groups like "us" or "all" makes women less defensive to give a number, but at the same time doesn't fully show my interest or intent. What do you think? Does it even matter?
I'll call her later tonight when I go out again.
I'm not sure if she's seeing the guy-bar tender there or not because I see him frequently give her a pat on the butt, but this could just be friendly co-worker interaction maybe? That's all I've ever seen. Should I even ask or inquire somehow about that? Or just ignore it?
Thanks for reading, any advice is welcomed.
CHAT