Basic backstory; 19, Australian.

So, basically, I had changed schools for my final year and ended up meeting this girl within the first few weeks there even though she was two years below me (she's 17). I guess it was being a year older than everyone else there that did it for me? anyway, we talked for a while but i was exploring my options and had some mild success. at a party she was brought up and i made some harsh comments towards her which she later found out. she wasn't happy but i didn't see it as an issue because i wasn't trying to get anywhere with this girl, i randomly drunk called her leading to a reconciliation of sorts.

so it's been back and forth, just talking and joking i guess. i didn't really interact with her too much. the year came to a close and i was gone, but we still talked (more and more). she's pretty sexual in the way she talks with most people and she has a bunch of guy friends but i didn't really see anything in that, she's a virgin. so anyway, we talk more and more, i go over to her house with my friends and we all just have a good time. NYE comes around and the party i'm at is a literal bro-fest, one girl and she was with my friend so we just drink for a bit then i'm at that point where i decide to text her drunk telling her that i enjoy her personality and i think she's cute, from what i can recall the message was basically telling her that she was girlfriend material. as bad as that sounds she deleted the message and doesn't remember it because she was drunk aswell (or so i've heard. you decide puaforums).

so i try to not bring it up, i feel like i was successful and just move along like everything is normal. we talk more and they were pretty general conversations, i felt like there was a decline in interest so i tried to tone it down and move away from looking too clingy. that is until one day she messages me asking myself and a friend to list our best and worst traits for her sisters benefit. i'm not COMPLETELY oblivious but approached with caution and sent her something. she told me it was beautiful and that my friend didn't send her anything so i felt even worse because it made me look like a huge bitch. i end up talking to her sister here for a while (shes my age) and there was back and forth chat, but i later found out they were both talking to me at the same time so i didn't know who was saying what. there was random sexual jokes and other intimate shit being thrown around but i took it as nothing because it's in her usual nature (so i assumed her sister was the same).

flashforward around a week or so and i'm talking to them again (both, apparently). again more random sexual shit that i dont take too literally but i stay playful when i talk. i end up talking to the original girl one on one and she told me the sexual stuff was her, the convo progresses and i think that theres definitely something there. she convinces me to have a gathering at mine this weekend and that her and her sister will come. i agreed and invited a few people. i felt like a huge chump here because obviously i'm doing this for her but let me finish up. we talk more, she's a lot different in the way she talks to me now, showing random ioi's and being a lot more relaxed. i felt like a fucking champion. then the oneitis shows up when i think that i might have found the one girlfriend who actually shares interests with me (i've had other girlfriends but they were the meaningless ones that had no relevance to me outside of being willing to suck my dick early on, still a virgin though). i found myself showing common signs so i decided to some of my friends to ask her questions like what she looks for in a boyfriend and she basically describes me:

not overly flirty
shares similar interests
a bit older
brown hair

i could be realistic and just base it on coincidence but i honestly thought it was relevant.

so pua-forum, oneitis? should i just totally nuke this situation? any specific things i should to do avoid this imploding in my face if i choose to progress?

call me gullible, naive, an idiot, whatever. i can only learn from this.

Do you have brown hair or not? Yes? Then you should have grabbed the bull by the horns and kissed her. If you ask a girl what she's looking for and she sort of and specifically describes you, or says some things that she's said about you before, then you just go for it. It really, really sounds to me like she's trying to get you to man up and go for it. You're a kid, you're not supposed to have any game anyway. That'll come when you get older. Also, don't be surprised if she's not a virgin.

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31 and still figuring it out.