Ok basically I have learnt many techniques about how to say things etc but I get stuck on what to actually say to girls and what to talk about and are often worried about boring them etc. It's been the same for a few years actually with anybody, I end up not being able to talk to basically anyone for longer than a few conversations without running out of things to say and it is seriously effecting my life. What am I doing wrong? I mean i'd just love and give almost anything to be able to talk to people and have great conversations for months and years.

Thanks for any help people, I really do appreciate it.

Anyone help, please?

The way to be able to have good conversations is to learn to listen.

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I know what you mean! I am taking personal coaching from a gu on here and he gives me step by step methods of stuff to talk about.
What is important is that you dont overload yourself and build it up so you dont freeze.
so far i got intro- hi how you doin (generic)
hey do youu like apples? (general thing everyone likes em)
then when they ask why have back up convo
cause a mate of mine on hol was hungry and we only had this one old apple left and he got ill and we took him to hospital and he got his stomach pumped
Ive noticed from 3 months on here that once youve got into introducing yerself and using something to get the ball rolling that from there anything you use which is disscissionable will get the convo working. I am just learning that I eed some kinda canned stuff to know what im gonna say otherwise i -blank- which isnt fear its just not knowing what to flipping say. relying on fluff talk is ok to say so but if you dont know how to fluff talk about whatever you need ideas!
maybe a good post to put forward actually might do it myself.

If you're in school, look for classes in the English department that teaches the 'story': Short stories, oral communications, creative writing, etc . . .

If you're out of school, go take a class at the local community college. Trying to figure this out from your living room through an ebook is like trying to figure out Kungfu through youtube. Have some respect for it and take it seriously . . .

I sometimes use movie lines to get a convo started. The one movie I always go to is Anchorman. I can talk about that movie all day and almost everyone knows it. Like I'll just bust out and be like "You know, I'm kind of a big deal. People know me. I have many leather-bound books and my appartment smells of rich mohagany." And if they recognize it they'll be like "hahaha thats from Anchorman! I love that movie." Or they won't recognize it and then you can be like "You know what movie that's from right?" and they'll be like "no". "It's from Anchorman, you now the movie with Will Ferrell and Vince Vaughn." Then you can go into a little about the movie and then be like "You should definitley rent it if your into those kind of comedies." Odds are she'll be like yea I am or no not really. If she says no you can neg her for poor taste or ask what she's into then neg her. And if she says yes, you could recommend other movies or talk about similar comedies.

And I'm pretty sure you can find more to talk about on the movie subject. Like asking her if she goes to the Cinema or what she thinks about what so and so did in a particular movie. Like in Wedding Crashers, you could ask what she thinks about guys who make up stories to pick up woman and blah blah blah.

I think movies are good because there are thousands of different movies and you can focus on a particular movie topic to transition the convo to what you want.

Basically you just need to find a way to start a conversation and quickly move it into a topic that is easy to talk about.

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