I'm going to try to make this as short and to the point as possible.
-i've been dating a girl since September
-she just got out of a year long relationship before being with me
-She is a very shy, quiet girl.
-Her pandora's box type is Hopeful romantic
-We've spent lots of time together

So here's the problem, she's stil struggling with feelings from her last relationship, even though she really likes me. All I know is that she wanted him to change something, and he didn't want to change it so they broke up. I don't know what it could have been. Even though she likes me, she still has a lot of bagage over this. I can just tell even though she barely talks about it. She says she should be over it by now but she's still struggling to put it in the past and she doesn't know why. I don't know what to do. I'll try anything. Please help me help her get over this so she can be happy with me. Thanks in advance! I'm willing to try any NLP pattern or anything that would help

Okay, you've been dating this girl for 3 months and she STILL TALKS ABOUT HER FUCKING EX!? If it was me, at this point, I'd honestly tell her to shut up when she brings it up. Like so. "Earlier today I was thinking about Craig and how he used to-"
"No. Shut. Up."

You do not have to listen to this bullshit, it is not your job to get her over her ex, it IS your job to be such an awesome boyfriend or whatever that she stops wanting him. You don't have to be rude like me I suppose, but if you've been doing this for three months, it's kind of part of your relationship now. You're dating Craig, too, and he has his thumb in your girl's ass. You can just tell her that you're not in a relationship with this guy and if he's going to keep coming up, you're not going to stick around. The correct answer is usually, Be A Man. Don't tell her to choose, choose for her.

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^Too add to Minsok's message:

If you don't cut this shit out now, you'll forever be the piss-on clean up guy with EVERY GIRL you meet. This is your problem, not hers.

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Okay, thats fair enough, and I appreciate the advice. im not really an AFC though, at all. I've been with much hotter girls than her (even though she is very good looking). the thing is, I'm ready for a LTR and she's a really nice girl, I think that's why I like her so much. I know this is a really bad case of one-itis, but I think I can get her I just don't know how. I'm ready to take this challenge Im just not sure what to do. I'll give some more details.
-I started gaming her using push/pull teasing and cocky and funny stuff
-I asked her to Homecoming and we went together
-I used lots of DHV routine type stuff
-She took my hoops then I took hers
-We've spent lots of time together from catching a quick bite to eat at a cafe to watching a movie togther
-I tried to kiss her twice and she said she's not ready.
-Keep in mind that she is really shy and quiet and only ever had one boyfriend so this is all new to her

I just don't know what I could be doing wrong anymore, when things were going great and I asked her if she wanted to make things official she said she really likes me but she doesn't think she's ready yet. that was back in November and we're a lot closer now than we were then. Should I just take a BOLD step forward and give her the ultimatum of either we make it official or that's it for good and walk away?

Verbal contracts, ultimatums generally don't work.

Simply because it is born out of logic. Females do not operate this way.

Saying to her that you're going to finish off with her unless she commits to you will only drive her away.

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Also, if you make an ultimatum, you're really just telling the other person that you can't make a decision and you want her to do it for you. This girl's got some issues, she might need counseling before she can even have a healthy relationship, who knows what happened. It's weird if she won't even kiss you, being scared of physical intimacy is a huge red flag. You should continue to see this girl, but of course you should be seeing other girls at the same time.

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I am new at the Game but I sense you are getting Oneitus about this.

If she has huge issues, which is seems she does, she needs a psychologist.
Not a BF with a huge ear and too much patience.

ALL of my natural mates would have told her either to STFU or GTFO by now.

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