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Hey guys heres an update. NEED YOUR ADVICE.

She texted me and told me that she believes in full honesty and that she not usually attracted to guys as big as me (I've lost 50 pounds but I still have some more to go. I'm not a complete slob though - just a little chunky). I respond and said it's cool and we don't have to talk. She texts back and says "Noooo. I still want to talk. Attraction isn't all physical". Then I asked her why she even told me that then. She said because she believes in full honesty and she wants to keep hanging out and she loves my personality and wants to see if attraction will grow. She also said the sexual part wouldn't come until after that because even though she loves my personality, she isn't attracted physically yet and sex wouldn't come until she's attracted fully either through personality or physically.

I told her that I don't know what to say. I told her a couple times that maybe we should stop talking and each time she got really sad and said she really likes me and wants to keep talking.

I stopped testing her for about 20 mins and she sent me a text that said "its my turn to drive but I hope you'll keep seeing me. Merry Christmas" and that was it.

WTF. I'm confused? Please give advice!!!


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Had a day 1 today with HB6.5

She was cool and we had fun. We had lunch at a local restaurant and then I did some errands with her and then went to a movie. 4 location changes! I think thats good? Anyway, we spent about 4 hours together and we had fun and she even took me to her house to pick something up. She was very flirty and talked about her past sexual experiences...etc.

So we are about to go our seperate ways and I go in for the kiss close and she kisses me hard! I go home and about two hours later she texts me.

Her: Sooo...
Me: Yes?
Her: I dunno. Waiting for you to say something...
Me: lol what should I say?
Her: I dunno about how much you like me
Me: I usually save my love confessions for the 2nd date
Her: lol ok
Me: But feel free to send me one of those pics (she told me she keeps her phone locked cause of naughty pics)
Her: I don't have any right now
Me: Well you can always take one...but I hope u get back from Christmas vacation soon we can hang out
Her: Well even if we do hang out that doesn't really get you seeing me naked...


I would have NEVER made a comment about naked pictures if she wasn't talking sexual the ENTIRE DATE. So questions:

1) Is she just shit testing? Or ASD or what?
2) She is away on Christmas Vacation for 4 days now. Should I text her while she is gone to keep her mind on me? Or leave her alone those 4 days?
3) Should I set up a day 2 as soon as she gets back?

Why didnt you lay her day 1?

What were you waiting on?

2nd date may never occur because you played day 1 too conservative.

1)ASD at work and it could've been a test also(which you failed).

2)This' just me,while she's away for 4 days,I would shoot her a text for 2 days,or a chat.

It really depends on the vibes yall had previous.

3)If you'd laid her day 1,no need to now worry about day 2.

I really dont know the timing on this one so I wont anwer what I dont now.

But Im curious to why you didnt f-close her 1st date.

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I didnt want to push it.

Should I have just went for it?

I thought about it when she brought me to her room but chickened out.
Yeah I thought I failed. What should I have done?
She's definitely interested. More so than any other girl I've taken on a date. She was nervous as could be.

Not to put added pressure on you but whenever there's a chance to escalate,you must do it!

She's given you small windows of opportunity to get physical,but you blew it by wanting to take it slow.

What you should've done to not fail the could-be-test was to not bring it up at all[the naked pic' thing].

She was nervous on the date because you were nervous.

Emotions are transferable.

Thus if you're projecting nervous vibes,she'll in turn get nervous.

You'll be lucky if she goes with you again.

However,in this case,Im optimistic for you.

I dont think it's "game over" for you yet.

It might be,simply because you played it too cool.

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Not to put added pressure on you but whenever there's a chance to escalate,you must do it!

She's given you small windows of opportunity to get physical,but you blew it by wanting to take it slow.

What you should've done to not fail the could-be-test was to not bring it up at all[the naked pic' thing].

She was nervous on the date because you were nervous.

Emotions are transferable.

Thus if you're projecting nervous vibes,she'll in turn get nervous.

You'll be lucky if she goes with you again.

However,in this case,Im optimistic for you.

I dont think it's "game over" for you yet.

It might be,simply because you played it too cool.

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I'd be surprised if she doesn't want to go out again. I mean, why would she text me asking if I liked her if she wasn't into me?

However, she did just text me and said this...

Her: you never told me how the party went
Me: the bachelor party? it was awesome
Her: did you get a lap dance
Me: Nah
Her: I would have
Me: Given me a lap dance?
Her: gotten one
Her: good try

she's confusing me. in person she is all sexual and she was all over me in the theater and then in text she is kinda cold/straight forward and turns down sexual texts. That was the first and only smile face she has ever used in a text with me in over a week of texting.

I think this message shows that she does want you.

But you need to keep the ball in your court. Maybe apply a bit push pull with her.

Right now I would answer something like:

"Hey! Don't jump into conclusions. What makes you think you're my type, anyway?"

Tease her a bit. She's teasing you with the "I would have" message!

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Hey guys heres an update. NEED YOUR ADVICE.

She texted me telling me that she believes in full honesty and that she not usually attracted to guys as big as me (I've lost 50 pounds but I still have some more to go). I respond and said it's cool and we don't have to talk. She texts back and says "Noooo. I still want to talk. Attraction isn't all physical". Then I asked her why she even told me that then. She said because she believes in full honesty and she wants to keep hanging out and she loves my personality and wants to see if attraction will grow. She also said the sexual part wouldn't come until after that because even though she loves my personality, she isn't attracted physically yet and sex wouldn't come until she's attracted fully either through personality or physically.

I told her that I don't know what to say. I told her a couple times that maybe we should stop talking and each time she got really sad and said she really likes me and wants to keep talking. WTF. I'm confused? Please give advice!!!

Anyone have advice on the update? I have nothin.

C'mon man.

These are just her shit tests...

BTW, if you didn't already know, shit tests are GOOOOD. It means she considers you bf material she just needs to be absolutely sure.

If she's talking about the possibility of getting sexual with you this means she's ALREADY thought about her getting sexual with you! Get it?!!!

Second. I don't get why guys try to get sexual over texts. Flirting is good, yes. But why get sexual. All you do, if successful, is ramp up her horniness and then... nothing. You can't fuck her over text.

Why not get sexual with her in person? This is what it is all about.

She's also given you all the FUCKING hints you need to continue this in a forwards direction. She wants to get to know you more... This rest is a natural course, just ride with it.

What's most guys will do is say, 'What?! No sex... Let's stop talking.'

Which is what you did. This is probably the worst reply you can give. She wants to know that you don't just see her as a sexual object, but as a person. It's all part of the process.

What should you do? Stop fucking going back to this, do you like, don't you like me nonsense.

If you do, you're just getting sucked into her frame, and she will be disappointed.

Think up something fun and exciting to do again... Then tell her about it.

If she again mentions some crap about not being attracted to you yet.

'Just say... Haha, I never realised I made you soo nervous... What time shall I pick you up?'

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Good points.


Shit. That's exactly what I did.
Great stuff man. I really appreciate the answers. She really was confusing me because every time she mentioned something negative about me, I would say "ok, its cool - we can stop talking" and then she would get really sad and I was like WTF?

She is gone on out of town for the next 2 days. Should I text her in that time period or just hit her up when she comes back?

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Ok, well now that I know that they are shit tests, HOW DO I PASS THEM! haha.

Thanks for the help btw. Much appreciated.

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Hey. If that bitch gives you some shit about being overweight, don't take it as a negative insult. You have to be fuckin comfortable with who and what you are and dont let any bitch tell you otherwise.

From what I've read, she definitely wants your dick man. I don't understand how you dont see this. From what Ive read you seem to be pretty insecure about yourself. I know its hard, but you have to believe in yourself and your looks and others will start to believe it also. I've recently started to emit the vibe that "I AM THE SHIT, AND I AM NOT GOING TO LET YOU TELL ME OTHERWISE." It is so shocking how people pick up on this and you just get so much more attention.

Back to the topic, you need to pass those shit tests by acting like you don't give a shit about what she says. Like the previous poster said, you replying with " Oh ok we should stop talking then..." THAT IS AN INSTANT FAIL. That shows how insecure you are with yourself and is a big turn off to the girl. You have to brush it off and act like it doesn't affect you at all. " Im not really attracted to your type." With that, you should reply with something like" DAMM I must be fucking amazing then huh? =) "

Maybe thats just my personality, but thats how I deal with those stupid tests. And it ALWAYS WORKS. Goodluck man. Ill keep posted with this thread.