hi guys!

dated a girl 3 times, she was very active about meeting me, always had a nice time. there was some misunderstanding: i wasnt sure whether she wanted to progress and get more physical and she was waiting for it to happen. so on the last date we started getting closer without kissing much though, wanted to keep it for the next time, stupid, i know..

so yesterday she texts me about how keen she is on meeting me tonight and taking it a bit further and so on (she was waiting for that to happen)..i played a bit of hard to get, teasing her a bit, but clearly let her know that it will happen...and then today all of a sudden she cancels via text, she was going to give me further details why later, which she did really late during today (11 hrs between the two texts). the reason seems somewhat valid as it was confirmed by a common friend, but some part of it seems fishy..

anyway..i am a bit pissed that she didnt make the effort of calling instead of texting and that she hasnt suggested an alternative in the next few days. she is gone to her family on new years eve and will return to the city on saturday she told me.

i responded by texting like it wasnt a big deal.

question: how do i react if she suggests meeting on saturday or sunday? on the one hand i feel like playing hard to get and to be unavailable for her first suggestion on the other hand i feel that i need to meet her once and inject some sexual energy to revitalize this dating and take it to the next level...

so reject her suggestion/freeze her a bit or meet up?!

Freeze out and flirt with other girls. Women like to imagine that you have options and she needs to know that you are a wanted guy who can move on easily if things don't escalate the way you want them to. If you guys aren't exclusive.. then don't be exclusive.

You should've escalated before, if she tells you she wants to take it to the next level, the you shift the frame of your sexual relationship to her. Men must always be the first ones to call, the first ones to go in for the kill, the first ones to escalate, we are naturally mean to be dominant in a relationship. In terms of moving on physically with a girl, always err on the side of too much boldness than too much shyness.

"He who hesitates, masturbates"

If you give in to easily to a girl, especially for nookie, you are sealing yourself into a terrible fate. Women know that pussy is the holy grail, they will use it to whip you into a vagabond. If a woman KNOWS that her pussy is the only one you want and have access too, there is no challenge for them and they begin to sense desperation, sexual tension will be mitigated to a few awkward sneezes and maybe a queef.

Don't think about it as playing "hard to get." The way you interpret your actions often makes the difference between an Alpha / Beta. Beta's play "hard to get" because they get spiteful that they were disrespected. Alphas punish swiftly by ignoring and possibly moving on to another girl. This is not because they are trying to play "hard to get," it's because they don't have time to waste on girls who don't agree to Anal within 15 minutes.

Seemingly a difference in semantics, it actually changes the entire frame of your pursuit. If you play "hard to get" the frame is still on the girl, you are playing hard to get BECAUSE you WANT her even more, it simply infatuates your Oneitis. If you ignore and flirt with other women, keep your options open, then the frame shifts to YOU. You don't have enough interest to waste time on a girl who gives you blue balls; women in Singapore line up on their knees to get facials from you if they can't afford the Salon
The best way to inject sexual energy is to inject your semen into another girl. Men who have an abundance mentality have a different aura about them, women can sense this. It raises their social anxiety and sexual tension to uncontrollable levels
If she takes 11 hours to respond to a text, you take at least 22. Always take longer, speak slower, get up first after climax, show less PDA, etc etc. Establishes your higher social value and reinforces your Alphaness in her mind.

On a more important note, I noticed that you have a pretty good grasp of game, just trouble executing. I e; you realized that it was stupid not to escalate and then now you realize that you need to re-build attraction / sexual tension. You're already way ahead of most guys, work on executing. 99% of guys who ask for advice KNOW what they need to do, they just need to execute. When they ask for advice, what they're really asking for is motivation.

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You like her, she likes you and you both want to escalate things right? Don't be stupid. Meet with her and make sure you both have great time. Escalate as far as you can go and still feel that you're both comfortable.

And stop leaving things "for next time" if you both want it go for it. PUA techniques are a great tool but a lot of guys lack common sense and ability to know when to use them and when not.

Have fun and enjoy.

BTW: stop being paranoid. She wanted you and you played hard to get now you're afraid that she's playing a game? She'll be back just make sure that you make the most out of your next "date".

i dont want to date other girls, dont have time for that, i want to reach a conclusion at the end of dating her and if neccesary i can move on should it be a hopeless case.

i dont think she is playing a game, i just dont understandand certain mood-swings. after the night were we got a bit physical the first time, but not much more happened, i sent her a text suggesting to meet up tonight. it took her till 22:00pm to respond which pissed me off, but when she did she emphasized how much she would love the idea.

and then as mentioned: yesterday she gets all worked up on the idea that its time for more action..she wanted me to come to her place directly instead of going to a bar beforehand (that was the original plan), i didnt want to cave in so i told her that we would go to the bar first and then go to her place to have fun. i did this in a dominant way. and then today she cancels all of a sudden..she might have had a reason indeed, but she could have worked around it to make it work. she did mention that she will be back on saturday, but i would have preferred it had she made a suggestion to suggest an alternative day immediately instead of having to wait if the princess will suggest something on return.

somehow i think she is starting to have doubts and is losing interest..

thats why i am on the fence: i definitely will not be the one suggesting a next date since she cancelled the last one, but should she suggest a date on the one hand i simply want to meet her to get things physical....on the other hand something tells me that cancelling tonight was just not right..

in my opinion, you shouldn't act hard to get.

acting "too hard to get" will work against you, because she is obviously interested and its almost time that she gets f closed

WHY. WOULD. YOU. DO. THIS!? She pretty much invited you in to nail her and you resisted! There's times to assert dominance and then there's times to just go with the flow.....