I for some reason, have the easiest time in the world getting a girls number online, by being cocky / funny and interesting etc.

However, I use disqualification / qualifications and cocky / funny through text but for some reason the "spark" dies within 3 days of texting the girl. Something I'm doing is wrong and I have no clue!

I don't lay down the "you're cute" AFC bullshit, I'm straight forward and I say "lets meet for coffee" or whatever thing, they usually say OK, but end up canceling and whatnot.

Not sure what I'm doing wrong... I think they think I just want sex or something, but I can't tell if thats what the problem is, since i'm not saying anything vulgar or anything. I'm actually starting to think that since I only message them about 5 or 6 times, that its too soon to ask for their number, and its "too fast" for them.

I'm having good success with this ONE girl (out of 20 numbers I got) I did NOT ask for her number and we message/email like 30 times already. Short and brief, but I guess less "formal" so she feels safer? As in, when I give the number, they *change* into someone else when they text me. Not having asked this girl for her number, I guess I seem less of a "AFC" since IDC about having a number in my phone?

Idk. It's frustrating when they randomly just stop talking to you... I can't figure out what exactly I said to make it go downhill. I escalate, ask about their boundaries etc etc, never back down and keep an open mind. The same way I get their number is the same behavior I use through text, and they just... slowly but surely stop texting.

I only text maybe twice a day at MOST, maybe not even everyday.

Ugh..

hmm. i think your giving the girls too much attraction and no comfort, and thats why they are canceling or flaking you. the MM (mystery method) way of gettin the girl is attract>comfort>seduce. it seems like your attraction building is great! the being cocky/funny etc. but when your texting one of the girls or messaging them online you wanna add something like

so how was your day?
whad u do today?
yea i just saw true gritt with a few friends, any movies out u like?
yea im helpin my friend paint his apartment blue, my fav color fyi lol. whats yours?

to help build comfort. "a lot" of girls arnt gonna meet up with someone theyre not comfortable with. those who do meet up though, "skipping the comfort stage", and lets say you fclose, (attract>seduce) will feel guilty because they just fucked you and know nothing about you. its happened to me a lot. one girl i gamed online, using all the lines etc had sex with me in 3 days and after we had sex she told me "i just had sex with you and i dont even know your fav color". and it ended with her bout month later.

also when you get a girls number, i give them a nickname right away. so id text them saying:
hey stranger danger whats up
hey trouble

as for the girls stoping with texting you though, that could be anything, build more comfort they shouldnt see u as out to get sex. it may be you migt e coming off as 'needy' (texting them too much, askin to hang out every day or 2). i dont know. i just hope this helps

Thanks, and you are very right!!

I realized I qualify too much.. saying "well I only liek girls who do this" or "I think you're cute but I hope you're not a creeper!"

Over and Over again. They bite, hard, because they are girls. However, they never want to meet up and think I'm all about the sex or something. I don't come across enough as a "person".


The person I had the most success with is coming with me to Barnes and Noble's now for coffee and books because we talked about.. well.. coffee and books for a good 10 messages! I'm so glad I got this part right.

Thank you so much for the help!

very well articulated Krypto. I think you can apply this to normal in person game as well. Ive had a lot of flakes after SNL's because i never built enough comfort. Just like mystery says, fools mate.

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In your guys' opinion, do you think that within the age group of 18-23 that girls tend to want to text more so than call?

i think it depends on the girl but yea that age bracket texts a lot. It a part of the game now so i would just learn to get good at it. I think Roissy said that a good test would be to only text something that you would be comfortable being displayed on a huge jumbotron at a sports stadium.

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