Hey there,

I might come of as a pussy but I need some suggestions on what to do. My girlfriend broke up with me last week. I feel like my motivation and spark has been stolen from me and it makes things worse when I seen her being happy with this other guy.

I broke up with her about 4 months ago cause she cheated on me with this bloke. I took her back after a couple of days.This is the same bloke she was kissing n shit just the other day.

It's a pretty fucked feeling to see that shit. I know I'm being a pussy but it's hard not to feel like this. I would like to see other girls and move on but I live in a particullary competive area. The guy girl ratio is like 10 guys to 1 chick.

How do I get my spark for life back?

Thanks

You need to give it time bro. Yea its a horrible fucking feeling.. I'm going to tell you straight up...

You have two choices....

1. Feel sorry about yourself and be unproductive and get fat and get uglier because you ain't doing shit. Taking her back the first time was a big ass mistake that made her lose respect for you in my opinion.

2. Tell yourself "Fuck that bitch I can do way better and I am going to prove it to her"
So you hit the Gym and use that hoe screwing you over as motivation. Study your material and go out in the field and just work to improve yourself. Learn a new skill trait and make yourself more of a catch to ladies. Make yourself better and when she sees you months from now she will regret breaking up with you.

I took choice number 2 when I had this problem and I am better then ever! I look back at my ex and say to myself... "What the fuck was I thinking I get way hotter nicer chicks now"
Yes it might be super hard at first so take some time to regather yourself and then come back a better person.

Those are just my two cents hope they make sense I'm kinda in a hurry to get outta here but I feel ya so hopefully you take my advice.

hey thanks the advice bro.

My ego is in shambles. I feel defeated everytime I see her with that c*nt. I've begun training and I hope that will help with my ego and rebuild my confidence.

I know how you feel, it's a horrible feeling. Now, with that in mind, take some responsibility for your shit. You know what you did.

You took back a cheating girlfriend and expected her to change? Come on man.

"Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me."

You need a ZERO tolerance policy on this shit. Dont pick apart why she did what she did, just learn from it and move the fuck on. If a girl does something she shouldn't, she should be gone. Your self esteem should have been lower taking her BACK instead of getting screwed over again by her. I promise your self esteem will never be any higher when you take absolutely zero shit from women and remove them from your life like a piece of soiled toilet paper.

Being hurt by a woman isn't being a pussy, so dont feel bad. As long as you learn from this and keep a clearer mind when dealing with you next woman. Want your spark back? What were you doing before and during you met her? Do that! Refuse yourself feeling like that over some low-quality chick. You made out better than the guy she's with now. I promise. He'll be in your shoes in 6 months or less. She'll keep the vicious cycle going on and on. Do you really want to get hung up on someone like that?

I realise now that when I took her back I became "needy". It broke me down and turned me into something I don't like. I became paranoid, untrusting, controlling, emotionally manipulative.

On the good side this relationship brought to light some unattractive qualities that I posses such as the above. It is in my highest interest to get these things in check. Starting with my confidence... I believe everything will fall into line.

If anyone is able to provide me with some resources on how to stamp out the unattractive qualities (needy, controlling, EM) that would be great.

Thanks for your advice guys

Smart Man I agree 100%

Watch

Hypnotica & Steve P- Instant Inner Game On youtube . there's 9 segments

Gotta get back in the right frame of mind with yourself .

I too Just broke up with mine.

Cheers

agreed with everything above, also delete her as a friend on facebook. so you dont have to see any pics/check her wall etc etc

Avoid seeing her around, go to different places with your mates, they will understand.

And yeah go out and buy new clothes/haircut/gym membership and learn to become an alpha male( how to become an alpha male is a great book!)

I got out of a long term relationship a few months ago and i did these exact things and i am a much much more confident and am really enjoying life! Time is a healer!