im pretty inexperienced 20 year old guy. and im at college now. id hate to accept it but i feel my social inteligence is pretty low, especially with girls. i was very little social when i grew up but im beginning to learn about social things.

but something that ive learned that really i found shockening is how unfaithfull girls are. it really disturbed me and made me feel sick. ive changed alot past year im pretty good looking now. and i see these girls with boyfriends hitting on me and this just for me is kinda disgusting. especially this one girl that was into me and i was into her untill i checked her facebook account and found out she is fucking engaged.

i mean what the fuck dont people today have any princpiples. its not only the girls alot of the guys are players. so i feel like its some evil circle.

got like almost depressed like how the fuck am i gonna get a girl i like and have normal relationship and how the fuck can i trust this girl.

is this just how it is for people at at a young age such as in early twenties? relationships dont really mean anything and everybody is fucking everybody?

You hear it time and time again, but the reason they're unfaithful is because they are unhappy with their relationships. They still want adventure, and their relationship isn't giving it to them

So they are unfaithful. Is it wrong, completely, but thats the way it is.

How do you keep a good relationship? By keeping attraction high in the relationship. Once you have a girlfriend it doesn't mean you should just go completely AFC, you need to keep the relationship interesting for both of you.

If a girl is highly attracted to you, you shouldn't have to worry about her being faithful, she just will be. She should wake up every morning and ask herself how she can keep a hold of a guy as great as you? If she is doing this, cheating will not happen.

On the other hand, if you turn AFC, she will eventually get bored and seek adventure another way. She may stick around for a little while, but as soon as she finds someone to trade up for she's going after him.

The good news is, you can be the guy she trades up for. If you keep this mindset in her head, your gold.

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yeah exactly and i hate it

Did you stop to maybe think that you should maybe hate the GUYS these girls are with for not fulfilling them emotionally or sexually?

If anything, you should really pity them for not being proper men. This is why the girls are out looking at other options.

Also, girls love flirting (so do I). Flirting is seen by most as harmless fun - it doesn't usually mean you're going to definitely sleep with the other person. I think maybe you're being a bit too moralistic (especially for a PUA forum...)

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That sux dude I feel for you.

To play devils advocate for a second, insn't it a double standard?

Doesn't pua teach to not put all your eggs in 1 basket? This doesn't JUST apply to men.

as u said blondguy . ive thought about this a bit and i reliazed that im being a bitch whining about this shit on a pua forum, or even whining about it in general. its just how it is. but this girl that that is engaged that was just disturbing... shes even listed christian on her religious views on facebook .. i guess thats the real reason i was bitching because i was into this girl untill i found out shes engaged just by checking her facebook..

but i dont really get this innocent fliriting thing. i dont see it as harmless fun if ur god damn engaged? i wouldnt been mad if she only had a boy friend, i get it that a boyfriend in many cases isnt really anything serious, but being engaged that i feel was over the line.

Flirting is flirting is the person is just being playful and honestly has no intentions of acting out. Are you sure these girls aren't just harmlessly flirting with you? Have they stuck their tongues down your throat or hand down your pants? Flirting is healthy. Why don't you have some relationships before you decide that ALL women can't be trusted. You're just making excuses not to even try. If there are guys like us that have never cheated, there are definitely similarly loyal women. It's NOT just about keeping her interest so she won't, most women just won't.

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Dude Im a believer of God, if I had known how christian girls really are when I used to go to church damn they would be wrapped around my finger tips

point is they get upto more mischieve then regular kids, their parents beliefs are the things that are holding them to be themselves. Imo not all christian girls are all believers some just go there to pick up good christian boys.

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It is disturbing HOW many people are unfaithful, and how common and almost acceptable infidelity is.

But the first response poster is right. the reason that they are engaging in that behavior is because they are unhappy with their current romantic situation. It's a pain in the ass because.. If I'm single, I will happily steal the girl and HAVE FUN(Have done so on several occasions). But I would never date a girl that cheats. But let me assure you, the girls that don't cheat, that are moral ARE out there.. you just have to sift and screen. And how is that different from other aspects of screening. You wouldn't date a girl if she was ugly, if she shared deal breaking belief differences, If she's a Sara Palin supporter, etc... so just something you have to find for yourself. But there are several great girls out there...

Oh and also, religion holds absolutely NO weight on a girls moral capacity to cheat. I have a gambit where I ask girls about religion, and in my experience, though most american girls consider themselves christian, very few actually are seriously practicing, and religion is hardly the most efficient way to establish moral purity.

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No, the OP is not right. You NEVER blame the person that gets cheated on. If someone cheats, it's because they're an immoral douche that doesn't have the spine to break up with the person they're with because they're too scared that no-one else will want to commit to them. The reason infidelity is so commonplace and almost excepted is because retards like to blame the victim for driving the cheater to cheating instead of lambasting the cheater like he/she deserves.

Just look at Tiger Woods, a lot of people blamed the women for "tempting" him when they knew he was married, people blamed Hilary Clinton for Bill Clinton, the cheater never has to take full responsibility, which makes it that much easier to do it. Why do people turn it on the victims like that? Because a shit ton of people have cheated and they don't have the balls to admit that they do shitty things.

I've been cheated on and it sure as FUCK was not my fault the bitch didn't dump me when the relationship wasn't satisfying enough for her.

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"Bitches aint shit but hoes and tricks...."

Doesn't ANYONE listen to Dre?! Jeez....

But seriously, we can assume anything. It all comes down to being a cheater in a relationship. Fuck being "unsatisfied". Guess what would be the right thing to do when that happens? YOU LEAVE! Didn't take an awful lot of brain power to come to that conclusion either. I swear!

Some girls get in relationships because they love being able to say "Oh, my boyfriend and I love..." Some use it simply for social status. At our age it's rare for girls to be openly single and hooking up with guys, it's usually socially unacceptable with women. Most women will ridicule her and call that girl a "whore" or "slut". It's usually like this with younger women.

Now, of course, there could be a girl that's dissatisfied and her boyfriend treats her horribly and she has nowhere to go...but I rarely buy it. I've known enough women to never fall for that Poor Me routine they love. Most that cheat are either bored or dissatisfied and too chicken shit to leave, or they use that boyfriend as a way to be the "good girl" in people's eyes and fool around behind the scenes. I dont see too many cut and dry cases where the girl is plain unsatisfied, because anyone with an ounce of self-respect would be gone and free to do as they please.