This may sound crazy, but it's a problem for me right now. Basically, this girl who I'm not that attracted to but still think is really cool sprung on me right when we were hooking up after a time investment of a few dates she is an intercourse virgin. She is in her 20s so I was pretty shocked to hear this. I let this go that night because I didn't wanna kill the mood while we did other things in bed or be a pressuring asshole to her.

My problem is that I need to tell this girl, for her sake and my own, that without sex this is going nowhere fast. I don't wanna invest any more time into this on the hope I'm the one she wants to pop her cherry or whatever the hell she is waiting for. But I wanna give her the opportunity to try something new out with me.

What's a smooth, but firm, way I can tell her what I want from her without sounding like a jerk?

Dont know if you should say it so bold but how about subcommunicating it?

Simply become disintereted and hope you'd build enough that she would'nt want to lose you.

Plus Im curious to how far yall have been:kissed,KINO,fondled?

Are you sexually arousing her or what?

If she's a virgin,I cant see why's so hard for you to arouse her & tease her to the point of making her want to rip your clothes off.

If that wont work,just pretend to lose interest by not touching her,no cuddles,no intimacy.

Make her wonder,then hope she'll miss your touch and start to re-engage you.

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Hi man.

Dont overcomplicate things. How do you know she is an intercourse virgin? She told you, so at a certain point you talked about sex. If i was you, i would have another sex talk, and just plain say it the way it is. Not nasty or finger-pointing or something, but not talking around the bush either.

What is it you want with this girl? You want sex or you want a long term relathionship?

If you dont want a LTR, you better spit it out then and be honest with it. just tell her you want sex, either she can be the lucky girl or it will be somebody else. Tell her you can understand that she wants to wait until she has found the one, but if that is true, you should also tell her that you are not the guy.

If you do want a LTR, you also better spit it out that sex is important to you in a relationship. Dont pressure her, even if she is in her 20's, the fact she waited so long clearly says it is important to her. but on the other hand, she needs to understand that this can't go on till forever.

lots of luck!

ciao

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If you want sex and not LTR, I promise you, telling her that you just want strictly sex well end up in you to splitting. She's a female virgin, you gotta think like them. 99% of the time they want to have a LTR with the man who pops there cherry. Now I'm not telling you to lie and pretend to want a LTR + Sex instead of just sex... but I'm just saying how it is lol.


Oh and I recommend reading some of 60's material. Whenever she tries to give you resistance when escalating during foreplay, you'll know what to do.

Yup, also true, but still, not popping her cherry but not lie to her as well, seems much better then actually lying to her just for the sex. Yeah, i know, i am going moral here, but i dont really care. its the good thing to do.

ciao

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I know I'm selfish, I'm unkind.
Sucker love I always find,
Someone to bruise and leave behind.
placebo - every me, every you

I see where you're coming from. But in my opinion, a lot of us have become manipulated by the devil when it comes to situations like these. "Don't lie to the girl. Be honest with her and tell her you just want sex." Nooo lol. In my religon, and in a lot of other religons, pre-marital sex is very wrong. Far more wrong than lying. So when I hear people say to be honest with a girl, and if she's cool then have sex, that my friends is the devil playing tricks on you. lol. See how our priorities are changed. Lying to a girl is not ok, but having sex with her is just fine, before marriage.

Now I'm not saying everyone here has a religon. But from what I've experienced in my life, the majority of people believe in a religon, and there religons say pre-marital sex is a no no. So I'ma assume the same for this website.

And I'm not saying that you should lie and have sex. (You do what u want) I just don't like it when people say, "you can have pre-marital sex, but not lie to a girl".

Very interesting point you make there! And i actually agree with it. It depends from person to person.

Honesty is my religion. Lying is not ok, pre marital sex is. If it is against her believes, she should be honest with me as well. Or wouldnt you agree with this?

nice post!

ciao!

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I know I'm selfish, I'm unkind.
Sucker love I always find,
Someone to bruise and leave behind.
placebo - every me, every you