So, I really really want this girl. I know, oneitis is not a good thing. But I just want to go all out and try my best. So the situation is this: We used to hang a lot in school. She used to text me and ask me school stuff all the time. We used to laugh and have fun a lot. Well, until she dropped out.

After that we hardly talk, atleast not as much. But when I text her, I get a rather good response. We have talked a couple of times already over msn and texting that we should get togheter and do something. I'm not sure, but I don't think she knows that I like her.

Anyways, last week, after which we had said that we should hang out soon. I said "Well, you can tell me what days you are free. And I can check if any of those days fit in my shedual". She said "I'm working the entire week, but I'm sure it will fix itself" basically. To which I responded: "Well, I'm booked this entire week. But I might have a bit less to do next week" to which she responded "That should work".

That the latest series of text messages. Is she intressted at all? If she wasen't, would she still say yes, when I say that we should hang out? (Please ask questions about the situation to get a better understanding. If you want)

I was thinking about just texting her randomly tomorrow. Not even mentioning hanging out. Be a bit cocky and funny. What do you guys think about that?


Also, I have been thinking. If she keeps dodgeing oppertunities to hang out. Would it be a good idea to just put my cards on the table? Say something like "I like you", or maybe "I dig you". But in a less serious manner?

Thanks!

Come on. One of you experts should be able to help

You have already answered your own question. You have Oneitis, your goal right now shouldn't be to go out with this girl, it should be to get over your Oneitis. Mastering women gives you the illusion of having game, your goal must always be Self-mastery.

Never forget this, women sense desperation the way sharks smell blood. If you are on a forum posting about your Oneitis, chances are, she knew about it even before you did. There is nothing more unattractive to a women than a desperate man.

No. You show a girl you are interested with your sexual advances, you never tell a girl you like her. It makes a world of difference in terms of how she interprets it.

The former makes her think
"dam this guy is confident about his sexuality, and he wants me. However, I am in a COMPETITIVE SOCIAL MARKET, I need to QUALIFY MYSELF to him and show him that I am better than other girls so that I CAN HAVE HIS EXCLUSIVE ATTENTION. He is sexually interested, but he COULD STILL BE SEXUALLY INTERESTED in other girls"

The latter makes her think
"He has ALREADY CLAIMED exclusivity, I am the only source of intimacy he desires."
(And thus begins a downward spiral in her sexual drive, she no longer needs to seduce you, there is no challenge).

you NEED to cultivate SOCIAL ANXIETY in a girl. A girl must know that you are WANTED by other women. The most satisfying feeling for a girlfriend is to know that her boyfriend is wanted by other women.
You are being disillusioned by your Oneitis. No escalation has occurred, you are not getting a good response. Do you know why she wants you to think you are getting a good response? Think back to biology class. A woman doesn't only need sex the way males do, she also needs ATTENTION (pre-modern society's equal to protection).

THIS IS WHY WOMEN LJBF MEN AND LET THEM THINK THAT THEY HAVE A CHANCE. She wants you to like her for years and years and chase after her. "Let's just be friends" is the greatest feminine operative social convention ever invented, it is a complete FUKING sham. Using this, she can HAVE YOUR ATTENTION WITHOUT GIVING YOU SEX. Remember, for females the ultimate goal is a conquest of the mind, not a conquest of the body.

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Nice, great post. Thank you.

But then, how do you make sexual advances? And is there any way for me to do it while texting with her? To show her that I like her and want to do something with her. :p

I got this one.

Yes, there is. There definitely is.

I've actually not posted this publicly, but there's a string of text messages I used to transition into heavy sexuality with a girl so as to set up a sexual frame via text before I meet them.

PM and I'll take you through it, if you'd like.

It's not for the faint hearted.

Sky