ok so heres the deal there is this really cute girl that i started to talk to like a week ago.
so i talk to her on the phone every night and we message each other constantly. she says that she really likes me but does not want to go out with me and she wont be a hook up so im wasting my time (is this a shit test) and if so how do i pass it... i told her i had been with a lot of girls and i think that messed me up and that i only did hook ups... she tells me she likes me so much and that im diffrent and she talks to me until i let her go and sometimes she wants to talk longer i only talk to her once and i ignored her twice when i saw her and we went on break for school so right now we are just talking on the phone. i ask if theres a part of her that wants to go out and she says yes but at the same time no i ask her if she wants to kiss me and she says she really does but does not want to be a hook up or a sl ut... i asked her if i can come over like at 3 in the morning to her house today and she said yes i played with her and said i dont want to hook up bc if i go we probably will and she didnt say anything she said we could spoon i really like this girl and i think of her 247 and i know she does the same but i dont know what to do should i just let it go she keeps telling me that we probably wont go out and that she does not want to be a hook up therefore we wont do anything... i really need an answer asap for tonight what should i do

unless you're between the ages of 13-16 (which it seems you may be) then all of those things are shit tests.

_________________
Slept On Rappers
http://hiphoprising.blogspot.com

im 17 so what do you think i should do should i stop texting and play hard or just keep talking she gets mad when i tell her i guess we should just be friends she says thats not what she wants but it all goes back to she does not want to be a hook up of my gf but at the same time she does shes wired is bc i never dealt with this before and i dont know what to do

It's pretty obvious by 13 yr. old logic that she wants you to ask her to be exclusive.

yea i think so as well but how do i do that do i stop talking about diffrent girls to her and bc i asked her if she wanted me to go to her house and i said i didnt want to because if i did something would happened and i did not want her to just be another hook up and she said that was really cute i told her i care for her a lot and i know she likes me to she gives me a lot of iois

Hey man, i'm 17 as well, and i had a girl do almost the exact same thing. I was a bit younger, and she was almost 18, but she would constantly remind me that i was "too young", then when i finally got her, she would give me the token "i just want to make sure it's not just sexual" etc. What worked for me was i got maybe a little too soft on her, and told her my feelings before i went on this trip for a week or so.
(Sorry I'm not meaning to steal your attention here)

She has admitted that she likes you, so you KNOW that this can work, and can actually create a stronger connection because you had to work harder to make it happen. And she knows that too. My advice to you is to use future projections, more comfort building. Especially the future projects, say things like "have you been to bla bla bla, we should definitely go there sometime". That way she starts thinking "this guy isn't trying to just use me", and she actually starts thinking of you two doing those things together. It sounds pretty obvious she wants to do all these things with you, there's just a barrier you have to get through, best way is using these techniques to build her comfort and trust.

Anyway, hope it helps.

i think if your just trying to get in her pants without going out with her then you need to learn seduction and kino and this way you can turn her on and get in her pants exclusively without asking "friends with benefits", because she already said no to that.

thank you guys this is really helping out and i like her a lot thats why im doing it either wise i wouldnt leave a girl better then when you first met her is the rule and shes no exception well we talk on the phone every night and she keeps telling me everything is pointless that she likes me a lot but we wont go out so we should just lay off the phone and just talk in school she said we should do it in school i said if its pointless i guess we shouldnt talk at all she said she would be mad if we didnt talk at school so should i lay off on the phone btw today i saw her and i kinda messed up and made it kinda akward by not talking as much she gave me a hug and i told her i would kiss her on the phone the night before and she kinda moved back that made me mad so i said wtf i wasnt going to kisss you after that she gave me another hug and left i saw her later and i made her miss her bus lol and she kinda huged me for a while and i moved back like she was going to kiss me lol should i avoid her a little

Man, my advice in that situation, and if it continues, would be to just be alpha, be confident, and more importantly don't act like you're chasing her. Seems like sometimes girls do this shit because it's their weird way of getting close, or they are just having fun playing with guys minds. Either case, i would say ignore her when she says things like "but i don't want to x with you".

well i think i fuxked up you guys and it sucks because i really liked this girl we continued talking and we would be happy she would tell me she liked me and i couldnt contain myself so i reminded her that i liked her a lot to to many times i guess. well at the end she said she did not want to talk to me anymore and that she dosent like me which i think its all a bluff but she insulted me pretty bad and i kept on coming back i just couldnt stop myslef. i decided now that i wont talk to her anymore and ill just keep going but the problem is that i like her so much and i know she at least has some feelings for me what do you guys think i should do she wants to forget me and thats why she dosent want to talk its difficult for me because i see her everyday in school for at least a minute. i hate this feeling should i just act alpha and ignore her completely or should i still give her some iois because she still looks at me but does not want to talk or anything should i give her some looks to or just ignore it...