Sometimes in our life, we may accidentally tease or joke and call a girl ugly. Not intentional. They say that this remark lasts with her forever. That even telling her she is beautiful will only lasts a second. So, what to do ?

Would telling her she is not ugly and that you meant it as a joke work? What would you do in this situation if the girl is someone you care deeply about?

this is one of the reasons why i never comment on a girls appearance, whether it be positive or negative, I try to avoid telling her anything. The only time i would give her a compliment is when i noticed that she put alot of effort to look good to meet me, and then i keep it short and sweet.

If you feel like you did too much damage with your comment to the point where she wont talk to you, i say leave her behind and move on, you blew it. DONT take back what you said or apologize, you are unreserved and uninvested. That means you dont care about what people think about you or what you say, and that you are willing to walk away from ANY woman without second thought. Just take this as a lesson in why you should be honest with whatever you say.

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Possibly not the best opening line I've heard.

Has she said anything to you about it? Or to any of her friends?

If have to agree with not calling women ugly, but that would make me a hypocrite. I keep finding myself saying to a girl "You're pretty......Pretty ugly." but my natural personality is cheeky, so I seem to get away with it.

If she knew it was a joke, you're probably ok. However, the fact you're asking us all on here probably means you have either heard feedback on it, or that you really care a lot about her.

You're better off just ignoring it if she's said nothing. If she said something, apologise and take her out for a meal.....then make her pay haha.

There's no clear cut answer mate. Just steer clear of there ever being a next time.

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This truly sucks!!!

Hi dudes.

Ok, first thing: the first part, spirit, i think is bullshit. Never commenting on the looks of a girl/woman? Then in the second part you say: you should be honest with whatever you say (i totally agree with that). Well then, if she looks nice, then at least tell her she looks nice (but not only when you see she has gone through hell to look like that) ! I give comments on looks, although i must admit that i will never directly say: "you are plain ugly" and mean it. I do say: i think you would look better if your hair was longer or you overdid your make up, its ugly, or omg, that dress does not fit you at all. Its just plain honesty. when i make a positive comment, they know i really mean it as well. If they cant handle honesty, they can go fuck themselves or grow up. And that is not only towards women btw.

If you say it as a joke, it must be quite obvious that it is a joke. If she cant handle the joke, apologize. say that you did not mean to hurt her, and that it was meant as a joke. Every once and a while, you will get a person who cant put your comment aside and remains angry. In such case, leave her be.

Dont be an asshole and not apologize. But apologize for the fact that your comment made her uneasy or that she is hurt. Not for being honest. As you should care what people think, you need feelings and empathy, but what they think should not affect what you do. Small difference but important IMO.

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I totally agree with that.

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Hi guys, thank you for the kind and helpful responses so far.

When I said she was ugly, it was indirect and unintentional. The sentence just came up the wrong way and didn't fit the context. As a result, it was mistaken.

Only after she ignored me for so long, and consequentially did she delete me off fb did I realize that this was probably what went wrong. Hence said, the time factor is an issue here. It's been like 3 months since then, and I feel like this has caused our promising relationship to end so unnecessary.

I'm thinking of telling her that she has misunderstood, but I don't think it will change the fact that I made her think I thought she was ugly. I actually think she is very beautiful. And I want to know what I can do. How would a player go on about this?
A player is smooth, not necessarily having girls at his disposal.

The apologizing method sounds attractive right now.

"the apologizing method?"

dude its been three months, you blew it, move on

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I said there was hope for this girl to get good looking and she took it as me calling her ugly. I guess I did call her ugly duckling lol. But she is so hot a model actually so I ended up getting a date with her and her friend. They only way to get super hot girls is to cut them down. She had to prove that she wasn't ugly. Her friend asked me right when I got there if I still thought she was ugly. I just laughed.

I did say sorry for her taking it wrong though.