Hey guys, as you all probably know, I'm new to the whole PUA approach and I've been wanting to get more confident in approaching girls I find attractive. First, though, let me share a little back story about myself (It's a little long, but I think it's important for me to do this so I can get some specific help):

Ever since I was little I have been the shy, insecure one. Although my twin brother and I share the same personality, I think I am a little more open than he is. I rarely talked in school, save for a few friends I was close to that I talked to everyday. However, as I got older and went into high school I started to open up a bit. Somehow, though, it didn't work because there were still kids at my high school that would pick on me from time to time. This hurt my self-esteem and self-confidence a lot. Graduating from high school, I had no experience in having a relationship with a girl I liked. After graduating I went on to college and lived on campus for 2 and 1/2 years. During that time I would be thinking about if I would ever meet that special someone in my lifetime. What didn't help was the enormous stress that I suffered as a result of inconsiderate roommates who partied (almost) all night and kept me up most of the time. Not only that, but they weren't the nicest people you've ever met, either.

Around this time (Late 2007-early 2008) I began to completely lose it. Like, I didn't want to get out of my dorm room and go to classes, or go out to a social event or anything. That's when I figured out I was depressed. I went to the college counselors, thinking that talking to them would help me. Unfortunately, nothing seemed to help. I decided to transfer to another college after the spring semester of 2009, believing that a change of scenery would really help me out. That, and also becoming a commuter and not living on campus would possibly help.

Well, during the first two semesters at my new college, I started to get the whole depression thing again. That's when I finally went to the psychiatrist and got some much needed help in the form of an antidepressant he prescribed me.

I've been taking this medication for a year now and I feel way better about myself, which is why I want to focus on the other things in my life that I sorta "missed out" on because of my severe depression, and one of them is of course, how to approach girls my age, talk to them, go out on a date (or more), and maybe have a serious relationship that goes a little further.

(Note: In 2010 I did go out on one date, from a girl I met on one of those online dating sites. It went well, but I felt as though we didn't connect with each other very well.)

The only problem now is that I still have the approach anxiety as well as that worry of messing something up, since this will be my first time actually trying these techniques. The one thing I'm a little concerned is trying to be "cocky/funny" and/or teasing a girl. I'm the type of guy that is really nice and friendly and in terms of my personality it doesn't fit me very well. In addition, anytime I see a really beautiful girl, I don't get as aroused as a normal guy should get. Maybe my sex drive is low? I don't know.

Well, I appreciate it for those who want to read what I wrote, but for those that want to know what I'm asking, it's basically this: Where do I begin?

Hi ULTRA!

Well, I TOO feel the way you do. I feel like I'm missing the best life has to offer: Love. And honestly, I don't know where to begin either.

I'm not in the PU Community to get all the girls I want. I'm in the Community to reach my Goals and find someone who I can say is my soulmate. I know, you must be thinking: What does this PU thing have to do with anything ?

Well, I know that if I get good at socializing and whatnot, by gathering the confidence and information that PUA's possess, I will, much easily, be able to talk to people and, who knows, meet that special someone. I mean, if we don't try, we won't have any luck getting women at all, am I right ;P ??

Anyways, I hope you reach your Goals in life either by developing the skills that the Community teaches you or by being yourself, that said shy, nice person.

Your Thread, I might add, is prudent too: I don't know where to start either, I feel a bit disorientated to say the least. So, any indications you might get will be good for other people too.

I wish you the best of luck.

Cheers,

From your friend,

PUAWannabe_TP

Hey man, thanks for the motivation and stuff! It's always nice to know that I'm not alone when it comes to these issues.

Okay, so I've read through quite a bit of things on here as well as viewed the Stealth Seduction video on the bottom of the page...thing is, I wanted to experiment with trying some of these techniques both at my college and on those online dating sites as well. (Just POF and OkCupid)

I only go down to my college campus 2 days out of the week, which gives me limited time to try these techniques and stuff. Any ideas on how to make it work for me?

Anybody want to help me here?

Where do you start?

Ask girls out.

Well, of course! lol. I'm getting a little too ahead of myself...reading so much of this stuff that is supposed to come later, and I haven't even asked girls out. Gotta start with Step 1... Duh!

I'll focus on that this week. Then, I'll share my results in the field reports section that you guys have here on the forum. If I need any help, I'll be sure to let you guys know. I'm really excited to try out some of the advice that I've been reading about!

First of all you are still on meds right?, one of the side efects I think is low sex drive. Maybe you should tell your shrink and change perscription.

Where do you begin there are alot of methods but im fan of 60 years of challenge, but I guess mystery method for those who are beginning is great to improve social life. Then is going out and have fun things will come naturally.

Yeah, I'm still taking my medication, however I've been starting to exercise and stuff to help counteract the low sex drive/testosterone levels. I'll definitely take a look at changing my medication to something not as powerful.

Any other tips for increasing my sex drive?