I have a question does anyone have any advice for when you are introduced to someone for example a friend of a friend and you instantly know you want her to be your target how should you act? I never know how to respond as i know you should go for kino but at the saem time dont want to telegraph interest so not sure should it be a hand shake with a brush off (or is that too formal) or an embrace or kiss on cheek? a

I think this is a personality thing so it might not work for everyone.

I'm naturally very cheeky and cocky. As soon as I find out there name I abuse it!

Friend: Hi Scyth this is Helen
Me: Helen!!! Of course! [Turning to my friend] I already know Helen!
Friend: Oh I didn't realise.
Me: Helen, how are you sunshine. [arms thrown into the air and get a hug]
Helen: Oh...Urm...I'm ok....Thanks.
[Friend probably goes away at this point, if not you should have picked them up in the hug and turned so your back to your friend isolating you're target]
Me: I'm sorry huni, those introductions are usually boring and awkward. You look like the fun loving adventurous type.....[and you're in, introduction is over, target is isolated....and at least she'll remember you].

But you have to be the sort of person that would do that sort of thing anyway, or you will freak them out.

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sure i can see that working being overly playful kinda makes a mockery of the whole first introduction formalities which is cool, however im not really like that but will try that a few times see if i can ease into it, if not no harm trying hey, thanks for the advice!

What's your natural personality? We'll see what we can come up with.

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natural persona? I guess i come across quite shy and reserved when you first meet me, my biggest concern with woman an is that i dont want to either seem over and transmit too much interest or seem creepy and pervy hence i shy away from kino, However once i feel conformable i am really outgoing and confident fun to be with, i guess i want to start in that phase.

I'm about to tell you a secret. This is Scyth Magic haha.

The trick to not being purvey is to look the girl in the eye and then double check if her eyes are the same colour. Make a conscious effort to ONLY look them in the eye. Don't let your eyes wonder further South....ever!!! It feels really awkward at first, but it becomes a habit. You'll even start to notice her beautiful eyes before her breasts....unless they are THAT BIG!!!!

If you're initially shy, I'd go with a handshake or a double handshake. Followed with a polite "Nice to meet you. So it's....[insert name].....right? I do apologise, I am awful with names. I promise you I won't remember. Ooow, actually...Every time I see you say to me 'Whats my name' or 'Say my name' that way I'll remember." Then pause for a second and say something like "Hahaha I'm so sorry, that sounded really wrong. I didn't mean it like that. It's just my way to remember peoples names...by repeating them."

She will have a little laugh and probably even ask you to say her name shortly after you told her to. They usually just so "What's my name?" then you answer with a slight pause. Each time they say it the pause gets smaller and they think you've remembered. Sounds stupid hu? Let me explain.

You've given them an instant neg, by saying you'll forget their name.
You then are commanding them to work for you, but giving them a feeling of slight power. They enjoy the little game and mini power trip, but they are submitting to you because you told them to do it. Beautiful hu?
This also forces a girl to qualify herself to you, because she wants to be remembered. She works for your mind and attention.

But after you've done the whole "That sounded so wrong..." bit, you're already into conversation. "So already you know I have a bad memory and get women to say "Say my name", but I know nothing about you other than your name...."

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nice will try this out next time sounds good will let you know how i get on with it