I fell for this girl REALLY hard right away - and then had to leave the country - we decided to not stay together....Without realizing it I pulled a 'hot-cold' on her. Anyways, I ended up coming back to town a lot sooner than I thought and I let her know. Since I came back, she was much more distant and not as into the 'relationship' as before. I think it was to protect herself from being hurt because she thought I would just leave again. So she hot-colded me like crazy. I acted like a desperate, needy pussy and I hated myself for it. It sucked.

Anyways, we basically ended it after a while with a lot of back and forth and shitty drama. It was more or less her choice to end it - I agreed with the idea to save my ego but realistically I'd have been all over the idea to keep seein each other.....So anyways it's been a while but I'd like to see if we can date again - even though I recognize the drama that will most likely ensue. I've snapped out of my ball-less pussy syndrome dude and want to give it another shot...even if it's somewhat casual.

So advice: I did ask her to be fb friends (it's that ridiculous), she responds with some obnoxious response about adding her and not vice versa so I don't even bother following it up. Two weeks later, she says to me "you win" and requests me, I dont respond to the request or a follow up email from her. A month later she follows me on twitter and i didnt respond . So ya she's rattled and wants my attention but I'm kinda at a loss as to where to go from here....any ideas?

my perspective:
seems like she wants you back, but she will want to take it slow, as you need to gain her trust (that you wont leave her again).