Hi guys, Im new to the game. Iv read Neil Strauss (Style's Book) and its totally opened my eyes.

Iv recently come out of a 3 year relationship and have a rusty game to be honest.

Quick question is regarding tonight when i went out, this girl who's a friend of my friends came up to me and hugged me and said hello (I spent some time with her cupla weeks back on a night out but was too drunk to even remember) I got some IOI's of her tonight like i held her hips when she hugged and she didnt mind. Grabed her hand and she squeezed back. Finally went to the bar with her but it didnt lead anywhere to be honest. I even befriended her Best Male Friends who said to me to look after her because she had a bit to drink. The issue i had was that i didnt know what i could ask her to kind of get it out of her if she wanted to kiss close. I did standard push pull routines, Said "remind me not to go to the bar with u again" because it tuk 15 mins at the bar to get a drink. But then i complimented her when she took my tie and said it looked good on her, she smiled but thats it.

Now i understand that i could've easily said to her lets go somewhere quiet, but with us having mutual friends she just kept asking me where her friends were and after getting a drink she just said lets go find them and unfortunately for me, as soon as we turned around they were there so she went off on her own way. I honestly didnt know what to do and by the end of the night i came back home alone.

Hopefully im seeing her again on thursday night and i wanted to try and atleast kiss-close so was wondering if some advice could be given.

Another question i had was, now that im single after a 3 year relationship, i want to enjoy life. Hence, be able to get withg irls iv always wanted to. BUT, some of the girls are now my friends but i still flirt with them and they flirt back. What advice would you give to turn a friend into a fuck buddy as i coudn't find anything on the forum.

Sorry for any inconvenience, Please pardon me as im not just a newbie but also have a rusty game and am trying to get into full stride.

Thanks again.

Regards

Potter

Two words: sexual escalation. If you don't, you run the risk of being too boring. And then, as you saw, she will run off with friends. Be interesting, and that doesn't mean what you say, that means what you do. Eye contact, grab her hand, etc. All about the escalation, and if you get resistance, don't make it verbal. Try again in a minute or two. Resistance means she's testing your persistence.

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The System: Be present, practice, and keep my objectives in mind.

Here is your problem. Sorry man, we dont help out people who are not uploading a movie of themselves crawling on the floor, begging for help. And so that you know, it is a great inconvenience! ... ofcourse i am kidding, but i hope you see my point here.

common man!!! just common standard polite is good already over here!

Do you really need to excuse yourself for everything you do? And lets pull this through towards your game: I didnt know how i could ask her to kiss me in such way that it is acceptable or easy to be excused.... Common amigo!! You dont need to ask!

you want this girl? Go get her. She doesnt like you, its the fastest way to know. But somebody who squeezes in your hand is not likely to turn you down. So, dont ask, bring your heads closer, look her in the eyes, and kiss her. From there on, escalate (fast, escalate hard, resistance is overcome by persistance... thank you thor314 ). But its true. escalate you touching, not too fast ofcourse, but silently and steadily while kissing.

ciao!

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Like the naked leads the blind.
I know I'm selfish, I'm unkind.
Sucker love I always find,
Someone to bruise and leave behind.
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Here is your problem. Sorry man, we dont help out people who are not uploading a movie of themselves crawling on the floor, begging for help. And so that you know, it is a great inconvenience! ... ofcourse i am kidding, but i hope you see my point here.[/quote]

I appreciate what you mean LD. I just didnt wanna sound like a complete idiot asking for simple advice. But ye it wont happen again

Thanks again for the advice thor314 and LD. Im just going to go straight in tomorrow night and then will let you know what happened. Will use the sexual escalation.

Thanks again