i dated this guy who hit on me in a club..he was exceptionally into me, very nervous at our first two dates. date nr. 3 went horribly wrong because he took drugs at the club although he knew i resent that behaviour and he knew that i expected him not to take anything that evening. i refused to have sex with him back home, wasnt a quarrel but i made it very clear that our dating will not continue if he doesnt drop drugs in my presence. since he is hooked on taking them (psychologically) in clubs he needed time to think about it to give me a honest answer. a few days after we met, he said that he wanted to continue dating me and will try to stick to my rule. we made out a bit afterwards and i gave him a few print outs on the long term consequences of the drugs he takes. two days later i suggested to meet but i had forgotten that he had a shift. this was saturday, since then no contact which is unusual since he was texting me daily before our "incident".

so the way it looks the attraction got killed because i transformed into his mommy its not a big deal, but friday we are prone to see each other at a club.

i guess the best way of showing him that he has no hold of me would be to walk straight up to him say "hi" exchange a few sentences and go back to my friends instead of asking him why he hasnt gotten in touch or pulling nasty faces which would show him that his actions matter to me.

any other advices when seeing him there?

come on, share some info guys!