i have a gf and she has recently started work ... theres this guy at work she hangs about with alot, and she goes out clubbing with him and talks about him a great deal... i try to act as thought i dont care but i do... before this girl i didnt care about girls i slept around and just enjoyed myself.... this is driving me nuts, am i just being a AFC or should i be worried..... ( and if i ask her straight up she will just use the whole "dont you trust me" rubbish)

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you can have what ever you desire

You clearly didn't set the proper boundaries in the beginning of the relationship, if she's just hanging out with him during work I wouldn't worry, but clubbing? Come on dude.

There's a difference between pretending not to care an being completely oblivious.

She's talking about him all the time? What are you doin; listening to all this?

I'm not saying she's not allowed to have any guy friends but your getting suspicious for a reason.

Advice: you have to become the object of desire again, respark the chase part of your relationship. Be the mystery.. Tell her your going out clubbing with some friends she's never met. Keep her guessing dude please.

If your being in control of the frame of the interaction there's no reason there would be room to discuss anything other than what you would have. Controll the interaction, remind her that many girls want you an you are still the adventureous fun spontaneous guy she once met

It's easy you got it

You did it once it will be eaiser the second time around