Hi guys, this will be an interesting one.

Currently I am a natural seeking to improve my skills. But I have realised that being in touch with yourself seems to be the key to pick up. Whether it's about validation through sex or anything similar, it's about finding a partner. Not just a one night stand or a short term thing. Why should we need a partner to feel complete? Are we not whole people, whether single or what? Why should we seek validation through the opposite sex?

My personal challenge may go against what every person reading this thinks.

For the next 3 months I shall not have sex. I shall not masturbate, watch porn or anything along those lines. I shall not Sarge or even give my number out if asked. That includes kissing!!!

The next 3 months will be about personal validation.

I'm posting this because I want to be held accountable to a bunch of people that will hound me if I fail or stray.

Thanks guys.

I'll keep you updated on how it's going. This test will end on the 28th February 2010! but I'll keep you all updated on my progress.

I went off sex and masturbation for lent once.... I didn't really feel more validated, just incredibly bloody horny.

You can find personal validation through being successful in school, work, or endeavors in physical fitness or some other hobby. Rather than abstain from doing something you love, why not continue to conquer the challenges women give you while also conquering those presented to you by your other goals? This is what will make you feel validated and complete.

Abstaining from sexual activity and interaction with the opposite sex will just make you pissed and depressed.

I think someone just finished watching "40 Days and 40 Nights"...

Just a little FYI, a study I read about a wile ago said that when the sperm overflowing a man's testicles has reached the cerebal cortex (a.k.a you haven't had an orgasm in a couple of days) he starts to genuinely feel an overwhelming sense of "love" for women- it seems like they've never looked better, they've never been sweeter, etc. -and he develops sudden impulses to communicate this to them.

Now how exactly will entering this state help you improve your skills as a PUA? I'm not looking for an answer here, but think about it...


-Roz

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I kinda concur.

To the OP: You might want to rethink your decision because if you back off in the middle of it then it's not going to have a good impact on your confidence.

If you still want to go ahead with it then you may consider reducing the period from 3 months. If your circumstances allow you then go on a vacation during this time.

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Thanks for the feedback guys. This is the stuff I was hoping for, input beyond my own knowledge.

While at uni I was sleeping with many women, had loads of girlfriends, basically playing the game and winning it daily. Being good looking may have helped with that by around 90% (I was modelling while at uni which made picking up women easy). Social proof was there, DHV, constantly at parties etc.

In that time I was content and happy. There was nothing more to fulfill me. While leaving uni and after reading "The Game" (birthday present from a mate). Neil Strauss spoke about validation through women. Which is when I realised that even though I was 100% comfortable with myself, I got my validation through women. Thus my need for this challenge. Am I reallycomfortable with myself or is it just my success with women that makes me this comfortable?

The idea of being angry and depressed is a bit concerning. The notion I will have an uncontrollable desire to show love is even scarier! Sounds like a weird thing a rapist would say. So you can see my concerns.

I'm going to see how it goes. I've told my "bed buddies" what I'm doing, so if I actually need to break out of the challenge, I don't have to Sarge, I can just get laid.

p.s. I've never seen '40 days and 40 nights' but I'm assuming it's about giving up sex. Or about Noah's Arc as I'm sure it rained the. For 40 days+nights. I'll go with the giving up sex idea.