| Well... there really is two options you can choose here.
Option #1 - Dont let it get to you. Either ignore it or rationalize it and give her the benefit of the doubt. If she's doing anything you dont want to know about....it's best you DONT know about it. From what I read, it's a little odd for her to do this but I dont see any obvious signs of cheating or anything of that nature. It's just......odd.
Option #2 (My personal favorite) - You have a right to be informed when you and a female make a commitment to each other. This goes a little beyond simple, sleep with 10 other girls, rule that guy like to throw around alot here. If you are committed to someone and are keeping that promise AND have a legitimate suspicion of infidelity from your partner, I believe it's perfectly acceptable to exercise your right to be informed.
It's better to be hurt now if she's cheating than to wait and simply be the victim down the road.
Now, the only thing she's "hiding" is her other MSN. Personally, I dont use MSN so im not familiar with the logistics, but there's ALWAYS ways of getting passwords and beyond with a little SOCIAL ENGINEERING.
Do you have her old MSN Address? Do you have her email? If so, go to the websites and type them in and give a bogus password for both of them. When you put in the wrong passwords, there'll always be an option for password recovery. From there, you find out the security questions to both her MSN and email.
From there, it's just a matter of being slick with her. Get the answer to those questions. Women tend to overlook security issues and answer these questions truthfully. If the question is, What's her favorite dog's name, when you have a conversation with her, casually bring up the question where she wont catch on and bam.
Remember, when you put in the answers to her email, you have to reset the password, so by doing this, it'll be obvious when she goes to check her email that the password is different. But, with that, you should have access to everything you need.
ANOTHER option is to simply make a new MSN and send her old MSN an IM. If she responds when she doesn't respond to you, there you go.
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Before the army marches against me, Im not condoning the poster to use these methods, but I cant stop him either. I know EXACTLY what it's like to be in his situation and regardless of what any of us say, he'll do what he has to. Im not going to go into a big moral crusade about whats right and whats wrong, only giving you this information because I contemplated all of this before.
Curiosity got the best of me, and I found out alot of things I'd rather not have known. I was happy to take initiative and end what was a lie from the beginning, but it did not make any of that pain go away. Now, I've learned to let sleeping dogs lie, because there's really no benefit in being paranoid and crazy over anyone.
Like I said, do what you feel is right. If you want to IM me a little more and I can talk you through the process, I'll help you out. Just know, if you want to take this initiative and find out the truth, be ready for whatever might come. Or, walk away from this and put the trust in her hands and be ready for whatever would come.
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