I dated a girl for 2 and a half years and just ended it with her. She simply wasn't showing any spark anymore. This was a very hard breakup for me and I was actually in tears doing it because I really had strong feelings for this girl but I knew I wouldn't be happy if only after 2 years her drive to see me is almost missing. Our conversation ended with her saying she didn't want to let me go so I told her I'd let her go and then my phone died.

I sent her a text later that night telling her to pick up her stuff tomorrow, and changed my FB status to single.

I'm really having a hard time recovering from this even though I know it was for the best. Every time I try to sleep I only can think about her. It's killing me.

Its killing you and it's going to. I give you a world of respect for having the balls to end it when you thought things were beyond repair. Most guys will hold on and on till they just shoot themselves.

I....cant really think of anything clever to say to help you get over it, I dont think anyone can. Just live life. When she picks up her stuff, make sure it's ALL gone. Not one item of clothing or whatever. Delete her from your phone, FB, any and everything.

You're in the process of healing. Calling her to check up on her, FB creepin, and all of the above wont make it any better. Go do what you do. Work, play, hang with friends, be alone, play games, do stuff to occupy your time.

I could also say go after other girls but I've found this to be counter-productive. For me anyway. Anything the other girls do, I compare to my ex and that picks at the scab till it hurts again. When I broke with my ex, I stayed away from any kind of sexual or emotional relations with women. Basically treated them as asexual beings for a while. It let me center myself and figure out some things in my head.

Good posts guys.

As Solteris said, well done on ending it because not many would. Dragging it out only makes things worse - it really does. Nothing good has ever come from delaying the inevitable, so props to you.

Everybody gets over things differently, but completely eliminating her from your life is the first step to be taken. After that - do whatever makes you feel good. Whatever it is. If it's playing sports, do it. If it's hanging with friends, do it. If it's chasing women, do it. Just try and always have plans to at least do something you'll enjoy.

It took me 3 years to get over my ex, and I broke it off with her. At the beginning I ceased contact with her for about 10 months and I felt great. Then, we started talking again and I fell for her again. That screwed me up big time, for the past 3 years I haven't even been interested in chatting to women.

Finally I can say I'm over the hill, and for the first time in many years, I don't compare girls to my ex. I see them for who they are, and right now, I couldn't be happier with life in general.

The key to life really is happiness, so do whatever you've gotta do to find it.

Same thing happened to me man. I broke it off, but it really hurt. At the time, it felt like I'd never get over it. She was literally all I could ever think of. I know this is cliche, but you WILL get over her, start hanging out with your friends alot.

You can't talk to her, though. This won't help. I tried it and it was a terrible idea. The first couple days without talking to her will be tough, but before you know it, you'll have gone a week without talking to her and suddenly you feel like a weight has just been lifted off your shoulders.

Stay strong, bro. If you do, you'll be fine. The single life is awesome.