Often we find ourselves making excuses for our actions by blaming some sort of personality defect we have no control over. “I don’t go to the gym because I’m too lazy.” “I can’t approach this girl because I’m not confident enough.” The problem with this train of thought is that it reverses the true causes and effects of our problems and makes it harder for us to overcome them. We allow ourselves to be paralyzed by our own thoughts because of the way we perceive a situation. For example:

“I’m not approaching this girl because I don’t have enough game yet”
This isolates your personality as the main problem. If you think like this, then in order to overcome your problem, you would somehow need to figure out a way to change your entire mentality. Your thoughts keep you from acting, and because you don’t act, your negative thoughts reinforce themselves. It’s a self-fulfilling prophecy that feeds itself via your negative thoughts and inability to act.

Rather, always shift into thinking in a way where ACTION PRECEDES THOUGHT

“I don’t have enough game because I’m not approaching this girl”
This isolates the action itself as the problem. Your mentality is not your problem, your actions are. Your mentality is simply a consequence of your action. You don’t need to train yourself to think differently or figure out a way to develop confidence; all you need to do is TALK. The action itself solves the problem and your inaction causes it.

Instead of “I procrastinate because I’m a lazy person”
Think “I’m a lazy person because I procrastinate.”

Shifting the way you think into a way that isolates your actions as the problem makes it easier for you to change yourself in positive ways. It allows you to visualize what you have to do and sets out a concrete path for you rather than forcing you to imagine some obscure goal like “I have to become more confident.” You don’t need more confidence or bigger balls or more focus or anything in your head to change, you just need to DO. Your Limbs must move, that’s all. You don’t need to become an Alpha Male to be able to ask girls for their numbers. You need to ask girls for their numbers to become an Alpha Male. You don’t need to read articles on how to become a Don Juan so that you can talk to girls and get laid. You need to talk to girls and get laid to become a Don Juan.

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Great post.. Send it over to inner game


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