Hi everyone,
This is my first post, but already quite a practical one.
Hope I am at the right place

I have gone into a stalmate with a HB9 that used to work with me for tha last 1,5 year (she quitted and is now at home)

The summary of our relationship so far:
During this period of working together, we used to hang out as a coworkers during the working time and for about a year nothing was going on really. Than at one point we were hooked together on one project outside the state where I noticed that she started to build attraction towards me (my alpha male attitude and humour with the client contributed this) in a very subtle way. Anyway, I never tried something as I did not want to jeopardize our professional relation and I was ina a 10-year old relationship with another girl. Anyway I always treated her like a little bratty sister and we would occassionally flirt in the office. Nothing serious.
Things started to escalate when we meet up in a club one time (we were both drunk) - she started hugging me, dancing with me, dragging me all around the place, leaving her friends for me, etc. No makeout still as I did not kino too much back.
But it was obvious that she was attarcted to me.

After that we started to hang out a little more, going out with friends in the club and in coffe shops for a few times.

Than, cca 2 mths ago (she already quitted the job) we meet up at her place with some friends, started some flirting and got reall drunk, than went out to this club together and finally started to make out as I was following her home in the morning. This was a standard drunk kind of make out, but with our history it was much more and i could feel it from her reactions that she was really enjoying this. She complained sth. like "Oh, I dont do this with my coworkers, Oh what would your girlfriend say".... bla bla

Anyway,
I emailed her the day after tomorrow telling her that i hope this will not jeopardize our friendship and that we will keep going to coffees together and similar (hoping to to counter possible buyers remorse). I did not wanted to leave the impression of neediness so I did not press her too much during the following month or so. I would email/call her once a week to try to get her for a coffee or to hang out to the club together like we used to, but soon I noticed that she is rejecting me for some reason (although she sounds really polite and like she really has a reason for not meeting this time).

Why?
Is this a classic case of buyers remorse?
Caused by the fact that i am in a relationship with another girl (although I already told her before that I am not happy and that i will bail out soon)?
Cause I sure had a lot attraction and comfort already built...

What can I do?
How do I close her?
I wanted to show her that i was interested in her and yet not so needy but this did not work...

I was hoping to run into her when going out, but this also did not happen so far, calling her for coffee meakes no sense anymore, so i just tease her once in a while like i used to.

She is really a gorgeous and intelligent babe, but 7-8 years younger, a cluber type. She hangs out and parties with her girlfriends all the time and i noticed she has problems with expressing emotions and finding the right guy. I noticed guys trying to game all the time her but she just rejects them always. In 2 years she did not have a boyfriend.

The way to counter buyer's remorse is NOT TO MAKE A BIG DEAL OUT OF IT LIKE IT MIGHT HAVE BEEN A MISTAKE.

It's to just say you had a fun time and you guys should hang out again soon. If you act natural like it's no big deal, then it's no big deal.

Plus, you have a GF man. Are you in an open relationship with her? If not, you shouldn't be kissing other women, should you. That's LYING and CHEATING.

Anyway, you've made things sufficiently awkward for this girl now to make her want to avoid you. It's not YOU per se, it's the awkwardness that YOU MADE. Now you know, don't do it again.

I could give you more advice but I won't give advice to people about how to cheat on their girlfriends or break apart other couples because that shit is WEAK.

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As I said, I was in a bad period of my relationship that was bound to end anyway. So I dont feel any regret doing this, although it can be tehnically treated as cheating. Nobody had this situation before???

I am not searching for an advice on how to cheat someone or sth.

This shit just happened and now I am searching for an efficient strategy to get this chick back into my life, regardless of the form of the relationship with her. I am not reallly needy to go into new relationship at the moment, but this option I cannot exclude fully. I just want to be free and enjoy life.

Not making big deal out of it clearly did not work anyway, othervise she would not ignore me.

As I see it now, I have 2 options:
a) To continue with acting as it was not being big deal and practically sit on my ass while hoping to meet her somewhere. Call her to a party or sth. and hoping she will accept finally

b) Being straight with her on the mail and telling her that this situation is really awkward to both of us and that I really do not have any intention on jumping at her the first time I see her. And subtly telling her that I broke up with my girlfriend and decided not to take life seriusely from now on and that i would like us to hang out as before

okay,...
to make the long story short (as little reply so far),
the basic question is how to get back into the game with a freaked out chick that is ignoring my get together calls at the moment.


Summary:
We had comfort and attraction during a long period of time, got ourselves into an make out situation while drunk, and she is now clearly freaked out by this event as she was on a logical level taking me as a friend/co worker who is in a LTR (even though she had a lots of IOI˙s towards me during a longer period of time and even though I expressed my disappointment with my LTR)

Should I
a) continue to tease her and play cool as nothing had happened?
b) play nice guy scenario and open all cards saying I am sorry I freaked her out, I realizd it was an unappropriate moment for both of us, that I am not in a relationship anymore (true), and just searching for someone to hang out as a friend (partly true ),bla, bla,... than get back into the game as a friend and see how it develops?
c) playing tough guy scenario and saying sth like. WTF why R U ignoring me? what is bothering you? I dont even want to be friends with such a person...before you apologize , I did nothing wrong, etc

any other startegy?

Thanks