Hey guys. One thing I have consistent trouble with is feeling comfortable meeting and flirting with women at house parties, or just really social gatherings. Even if I know a lot of people that are there, including the host, I still can't seem to just walk up to a girl and start a conversation. I usually end up focusing too heavily on getting drunk with my buddies lol.

Anyways, one of my buds is having a house party this weekend for halloween, and there are going to be some ladies there (from what I've heard, some cute ones too).
Any ideas on how to deal with this situation?

Appreciate it guys.

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It's the fricken 80's guys! Let's do what we wanna do...free love!

i second this question, i have the same problem.

i also have my eyes one one of the girls there already, i know shes single, shes rejected me before but said i was good looking to friends! the beauty is she hasnt seen me for atleast 2 years now and i have a better body and dress sense now! any advice on this would be really appreciated!

maybe i should just ignore her? haha!

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no more mr nice guy!

house parties are great mate and actually pretty easy to game.

the most inportant thing you can do is as soon as you get there mingle for 30 mins. walk up to every one and say , this is usually easy as like you said there mainly friends already so its easy for them to introduce you to the HB.

secondly from then on make it clear to everyone that your having a good time and then you need to attempt to isolate the HB.

a simple " come come keep me company whilst i get a drink ".

thirdly its important to neg the target and escalate kino , even if its as simple as a handshake - neg , she slaps you - hand on lower back - dance/ hug ( maintain eye contact ).

for kino escalation check out vindicarlos escaltion ladder

http://www.vindicarlo.com/DiCarlo%20Esc ... lo.com.pdf

hope this has helped and let me know how it goes

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do you think a task would be a good thing to give her also?

e.g get me a drink and if you get this right il let you talk to me for 5 minutes, if you bore me, im walking away when your 5 minutes is up!

could also neg by keep looking at the clock or asking for the time?

this could be a little tricky and would have to be done right or you may come accross as arrogant, not cocky/funny?

what do you think?

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no more mr nice guy!

to be honest ive never thought of giving her a task before, might work but if shes drunk shes probably gona get side tracked nad youre gona be left standing there like a muppet.

a neg that has worked brilliantly for me is to high five her , interlock fingers say " wow your hands are really soft...... but there soooo sweaty " and then a cheeky grin . usually gets a playfull slap .

i dont think much of the time one tbh , it might come across as rude. i know id get beyond pissed if someone kept asking me for the time and looking at the clock unintersted.

saying that its a good idea to also use time constraints and body rock . make it look like youre gona leave soon.

if someone walks past near you say hello to them , this will add to your social proof and might make some new buddies lol

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Seize the day

thanks for the advice

im new to all this so i was just throwing ideas around!

really like that neg though, it would be easy to do, noone i know refuses anyone a high 5!

great idea regarding social proof too!

thanks again!

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no more mr nice guy!

Thanks for the tips smooth99. I'll try them out at the party this weekend.

That neg sounds pretty cool too. I've used something similar to that before. You find a girl you like, and put your hand up to high-five her. As she goes to give you the high-five, you pull away at the last second and put your hand to your head like a cell-phone. You say, "oh sorry I have a call" or something like that. If done playfully and with a smile, gets a lighthearted slap on the arm 90% of the time I'd say.

Thanks again!

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It's the fricken 80's guys! Let's do what we wanna do...free love!

House party game is quite easy, the margin for error is much higher then it is during cold approach game. Some things to focus on.

1. Introduce yourself to everyone, men included. If people like you then you have social proof around the whole place. In addition, if she sees you talking with others she will not think you have an agenda.

you can open with something simple "hey I don't think I have met you yet, I am Pelizzoli" and then "So how do you know (houseowner)?" this should keep a conversation flowing.

2. Get the topics going, commonalities, some attraction material etc. dont be afraid to walk away, you wanna look like a leader of men and alpha with your friends a bit, its a party go back to her later.

3. when you go back sexualize the conversation with a little more attraction material, kino heavier and use takeaways like "yea you're cute but we arent fucking tonight"

4. Isolate her, whether it be "lets see whats going on in the other room, basement, outside etc. its easy... you know what to do from here.

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