Been talking to this chic for a couple of months. There was def. attraction in the beginning. We lost contact for a couple of weeks here and there but still texted each other. I talked to other chics and vice versa.

Now here's the thing: We get back in serious contact a few days ago. I gave her strong indication that i liked her (probably not a good thing but it was in the context of flirting, plus I wanted more escalation rather then heavy flirting as her and I had done prevously). She tells me she has a boyfriend and he is everything she ever wanted (in which she really does, they started dating a few weeks ago while her and I were not in contact). She also said that she had no idea that I liked her before. I am not sure if she was letting me down easy or if it was a shit test because she said something about how we are friends because she can never cheat on her boyfriend.I play non chalant, totally cool and not effected and told her that's cool she found someone and is in love. Then after my reaction, she starts telling me how shes not i love with him though and how there is problems with them (in stark contrast to her earlier comment about how he is eveything she could ask for).

She texts me this morning but I have not responded.

Should I respond and escalate things? Move on? Or ignore her for a bit? Is she trying to shit test me?

Thanks for the help in advance!

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no one can help me out here? i'd appreciate it guys.

Well you could ignore the fact that she has a boyfriend and try to escalate anyway. A better approach would be to combine withdrawl with jealousy. Withdraw, spend less time with her so that she misses you and then start dating other girls and make sure that she is aware of it. If she likes being around you she be sad that you are spending less time with her and more time with other hot girls.

Or just next her.

If she's been dating a guy for a few weeks there's no way that she could know that he's "everything she ever wanted," as evidenced by her recent complaints about him. So you probably have a chance. But whatever you do, don't become her relationship therapist, ie. the guy that she complains to about the guys she is sleeping with.