I've been doing this PUA stuff for a few months, but I've had very limited success. I'm trying to think of why it's not been working, and I realized something:

When I go to a park, a bar, or a club, any place where there's beautiful women, as soon as I see the women I start remembering all the times I've failed, and then I immediately lose energy. (And don't tell me to remember my successes, because I've had none. Exactly 0.)

It's like I'm afraid to let myself feel hopeful, because I don't want to get disappointed again. I used to go to nightclubs every week, get all pumped up, bring condoms with me and say yeah I'm gonna go get laid TONIGHT! And then I would fail to get a single girl to look at me, so I'd go home, feeling like shit. Did this about 10-15 times before I quit going to nightclubs, because I just got sick of going home empty-handed, tired, and depressed.

How do I break through this? I just feel like if I could get it to work once, it would be so much easier, but how do I get through... None of the PUA stuff works if I can't smile while talking to a girl!

You need to keep yourself motivated, no other way man. I mean everything in life follows the same principle: you have to invest time in it to become good. It is hard to start, but the rewards are good. I tried picking up guitar and guess what happened? I touched it 5 times since I bought it over 6 months ago. For pickup u need to find friends which enjoy going out aswell and have fun. Stop hanging out with people that bring the negative energy or complain all the time. Surround yourself with truly fun people and you will see that every clubbing experience will be enjoyable despite the failures with girls. You will stay motivated and get results eventually.

Your main problem here man is that you're getting your expectations up way too high and when you don't take someone home, you fall further and it hurts. Trust me, I used to be the same way before starting PUA. What you need to focus on is going out to the bars or clubs and just having a good time, then if you take someone home or even get a phone number then that's just an added bonus.

It's hard, I know, but one way to combat the situation is to socialize with EVERYONE you come across and maybe get to know the staff at a few locations you usually go to. Girls will see you as a sociable and easy going person which could possibly raise your value. Here's another idea, whack off before you go out, it'll relax you and put you in a better mindset.

I pretty much agree with the previous posters. Rejection is part of the game man. I know how you feel and I actually had a very bad past week. All my approaches failed and I actually chickened out on a few closes and approaches. My mojo was in the toilet this week. This failure actually motivates me to do better... I plan to clean up tomorrow to make up for it!

We're all human at the end of the day. Don't be too hard on yourself if you fuck up. This is how you learn and get better.

If you can't get past approach anxiety.. take baby steps. Start with average looking girls or even below average. The positive energy you get from these women will boost your ego and confidence. Then you can move up to hotter and hotter girls.

Just don't give up. Whatever you do... because the fruits of your labor are worth it in the end. The majority of men are AFC's because they give up.

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