There was a time when I was really good at this. Then some things happened in my professional life that really shook my confidence. Now I'm worse than before. To be honest I feel like shit. My phone doesn't ring, I'm getting blown off constantly. I need a cure, I need a fix. I need to overhaul all aspects of my game. I really don't know if I should go clean slate and start over or if I should just start going out and fix things has they arise. Truth is i'm fucked.

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Your not "FUCKED"

Your a person you got moods, you got depressions
It's not much of an advice but just be relaxed, the only one who's judging you is yourself

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People only affect you if you ALLOW yourself to be affected.

A "failure" in business, or life in general, is only a "failure" if you see it as such.

All great businessmen/women have "failed" multiple times before they achieve success, because they view "failure" as a LEARNING OPPORTUNITY, because it's a mistake they know to not make again.

If people aren't calling, CALL THEM. If your "friends" don't get back to you, make new ones. Offer value to people. Bring the people you do know together, be the guy arranging evenings out - it's easy, just look up new bars or clubs that are popular. Call or email and arrange a guest list early in the week. Send a mass text saying you and some friends are already going and you can get them on said list. Now you are high value, you know people, you have connections and can help them out. When that night arrives you are the leader - introducing people, arranging the place to go, etc. If you invite a few girls you're gaming along with you, they will automatically be attracted to you and you have to do a lot less legwork to close.

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Well, my non-PUA friend seems to get laid all the time even though he never goes "sarging". he uses plentyoffish, facebook, and myspace. I can get numbers from those places, but never ever comes out of it. and he won't tell me how he manages to get them in bed so quickly. (again, he's not a PUA but he is handsome from a straight man's viewpoint) It's tough for me because most of my lady friends live pretty far away. Local girls are bitches. I've only had one relationship, then it went downhill after that. I don't do approaches cause it's all results-based bullshit.

Then again, I kinda live in a small town. nearest mall is 30 mins away. Women are just too stupid to realize that there are nice guys like me out there who care for them. They're also so evil that they'll use up the emotion and care we devote to them, only to knock us back because they don't see us as boyfriend material, or because they don't realize that we, in fact, LIKE her like her. Worse, I've read some feminists on the internet say that nice guys like me are really misogynists, and that if I in fact cared for women, I wouldn't be pretending to be nice and acting like an asshole.

My phone never rings anymore, people are always "too busy" to hang out..I had a good male friend but I quit hanging out with him cause the bastard would never show up on time. I would like some help with actual answers/results instead of telling me to try X "PUA" product.

i wanna get out of this rut! i don't live in the city so i can't go clubbing/do "approaches", etc. girls i talk to never want to meet up/hang out. it would be nice to have some girl friends to hang out with and be casual, you know?

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Sounds to me like you're seeking rapport from women instead of assuming it, throwing out some DHVs, and getting them attracted to you.

Rapport SEEKING is value sucking and unattractive. When you agree with a woman, smile politely the whole time, laugh at her shit jokes, never challenge or disagree with her, are too afraid to make fun of her a little, are too afraid to touch her in case she thinks it's inappropriate, give her a stream of compliments (esp about her physical appearance) and so forth, you are NOT a challenge, you are NOT interesting and you are NOT attractive.

You can bust on women in general for not liking you and being "bitches" but that isn't going to get you anywhere and frankly it's not true. If you bother to work on your sticking points and start presenting an interesting, fun challenge to women I guarantee you they will open up and start asking you questions, qualifying themselves to you, laughing at your jokes and touching you.

Drive out to that mall and spend a few hours there saturday and sunday during the day. Approach as many girls as possible. Open with anything, asking directions to a shop, if the thing you're trying on makes you look gay, where they got the shit they're wearing cuz u wanna buy it for a friend, etc. Throw out a few DHVs, neg them, make them qualify themselves to you. Qualify them, number close, set up some day 2s for evenings later that week.

OR continue telling us how your situation is impossible, the world is against you and there's nothing you can do to change it because X, Y, Z excuses. It's your life and it's up to you.

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Dude mate it aint that bad.

I was stuck in a rut for two years obsessing over a girl who I thought was too good for me. It all snowballed I hated my friends, family, had no job as I was made redundant, didnt have the girl of my "dreams" and felt so fucking insecure that I used to leave the house with a knife, drive off to a quiet place, and wanting to slit my wrists.

Then one day (seriously after two fucking years of torutre) I woke up and said enough of this shit. Got myself in order. It took time even when I woke up from my two years of hell but slowly and surely it all works out.

I used to rely so much on girls givin me validation and they were a source of self esteem and confidence but not any more. There is still a small element of myself that seeks that validation from girls (but you show me one person who doesnt and ill show you a liar) the trick is I guess not to show it.

Dude wake up smell the coffee and for every day just go out and live life. If a girl rejects you then dont let it dent your confidence or self esteem etc.

OP, think of it this way. Things could be much worse.

Here's something to chew on: A certain poster here, benlonghair, hasn't gotten laid since July of 1998.

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