Turning a girl in a relationship into my FWB



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PostPosted: Wed Oct 06, 2010 5:50 am 
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Me and this girl used to have a little thing between us a few months ago. We never had sex but we've made out numerous times and gotten close to having sex a few times but the logistics wouldn't allow it.

She lives far away, so we decided that we shouldn't get into anything serious. IT was fine, I wasn't really looking for anything serious anyway.

So I let some time pass, meanwhile she reconciled with her ex that cheated on her and there together again. I dont want anything more than just a FWB relationship with this girl. I've let enough time pass where I think I could make an entrance into her life again and work my way into a FWB relationship with her.

I want her to feel comfortable with the idea of seeing me on the side while staying with her ex. Her ex will get the annoying and clingy emotional side of her while I just swing by for casual sex.

I texted her the other day and she is still quite into me, and actually after all that time the IOI's were flying at me. Im taking it slow but I want to work my way back into the picture non-challantly.

She says she's afraid to see me because, "She doesn't know what might happen." She's a total tool who got back with her ex that cheated multiple times and she's put up some resistance to seeing me again because she knows we'll probably end up fucking.

Soooooo, I need some advice on how to approach her from here. I came at her with a more..."caring" side. I figured that going balls out and saying, "Come fuck me" with her guilty conscience is gonna scare her away so im gonna ease into this as the "friend".

Is there any advice you guys could give me on how I should work my way in and wear her down to the idea? I think things are going well but im still walking on a tight rope with this one. One little slip and I might lose it.


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PostPosted: Wed Oct 06, 2010 11:34 pm 
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Anyone?


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PostPosted: Thu Oct 07, 2010 2:17 am 
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holy shit man, i am almost in the exact same situation as you , in for reply.


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PostPosted: Fri Oct 08, 2010 3:28 am 
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Yeah, I feel you man. Under normal circumstances this wouldn't even be an issue but I'd like to try not to scare her away. If anything happens with the relationship, she'd come right to me....but something about meeting her while she's in the relationship is just....it's just great lol.

Either way, im gonna try and be patient. Whats your situation like Nstar? Maybe we can kinda help each other out....seems like thats the only help were gonna get in this thread.


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PostPosted: Fri Oct 08, 2010 11:00 am 
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The best way to convince people is not with words or logic but with emotion.

She's putting up an ASD because she' legitimately concerned that you will fuck her and then tell everyone about it, leading to her BF finding out and her being labelled a slut.

The first part of the solution is to invite her out to a low-pressure situation that is plausibly deniable as simply friends hanging out. This might be something like a tapas bar along with a few other friends, or lunch during the day.

When you do see her, you want to continue building sexual tension, kino escalating, and everything else you'd normally do. To help spike her attraction levels, tell a story about a past relationship you had. Importantly, mention that you met her randomly in a bar, and ended up seeing her in a non-exclusive relationship where you both saw other people for a while, but it for some other reason it didn't work out (she moved towns for work, she had alcohol problems you couldn't deal with, etc.) This story will both show you have preselection, but it will also show that you're the kind of guy who has relationships like this that are non-judgmental and free of jealousy. She will be more comfortable entering something like this with you. Tell the story and move on, DON'T wait for her reaction or say "so what do you think about that?" DON'T mention her BF and if she talks about him change the subject as soon as you can without being rude. If you HAVE to mention him, look away or down when you say his name.

Finally, when you do see her make sure you escalate comfortably and confidently and make sure there are no state breaks or awkward pauses leading up to sex. Take her back to your place "for 5 mins to grab that CD and then you gotta go cuz I gotta be up early," be talking the whole way to the bedroom, and everything should be fine. Freeze out if any LMR.

If you wanna keep the relationship going, then after sex talk about what attracted her to you in the first place and what she likes about you. These are the things you offer her that the BF doesn't. She'll probably talk about him and so you'll know that he's some kind of nice guy choad. Give her the opposite, be a strong alpha dominant man and fuck the shit out of her, and she will come back to you every time.

Good luck, and PS try to game girls WITHOUT boyfriends in the future. It sucks to be breaking up other people's relationships, doesn't make you a better person, and think about if a more experienced PUA did it to you, would you like that?

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