Hey guys, new to the community but already have some background info, just looking for some expert pointers, if you guys are willing to spare a few minutes. I'm just getting into the NLP and The Art of Pick-UP. My background is poor, no relationship experience, only 2 quick flings in my 23 years of life. Suffering form "Nice Guy" Plague, but for once am actually working on it now that I have found the tools. Failure is still out there, but I know that I am looking for a relationship, rather than breaking records.
There is this girl I work with, she started only a few months ago and ever since I've been playing it patiently and slowly building up. We talk whenever there is time, and I watch to not always approach her, but to wait until she approaches. I like mixing it up between neg'ing and IOI'ing, and watch the reactions. We goof around at work with all the employees, when there is time. I told her I would look out for any hot guys that walked passed the store windows, after she came up to me and complained that there is always eye-candy for the guys (and there is... hot college girls, other male employees cat-call all the time). I can always make her laugh, I've made bets with her and won... NLP
Problems:
- In front of her or within hearing, my other male coworkers tease me, with the whole "...sitting in a tree, K I S S I N G." I know really immature. I defuse it as best I can, sometimes they bring it up repeatedly with different words too. I think they're trying to help me, because of what they tell me in private, but I can't help get the felling that IT DOES NOT HELP ME.
- My room mate and co-worker is also hitting on her. Actually off and on, since the schedules always change. He has asked her out in a group setting and she has gone, but nothing happened, which I tried explaining to him..lol. He does not believe in the game.
Well tonight my room mate surprised me by inviting her over along with another couple we know. Some wine a movie and conversation. I tried to play my usual self, even though I knew I had competition in the room. She touched my shoulder several times and I reciprocated, so I think things went well. The other couple left, after them I threw in a witty line and called it a night. Told them I was tired and had work early. The girl and my room mate stayed downstairs on the couch alone, he told me he would try to go all the way. Came up to my room 30 min later, and said that she would only go as far as making out and didn't want anything else and so he sent her home.
Basically, I just would like to know what I should do at this point. I feel like I have the edge now..., am I wrong, crazy, ill-informed? I realize I may have screwed this up already at a much earlier stage, but I just want to ask her out, get to know her better and find a way to tell her this without chasing her away, like I have done each and every time in the past, up until this point.
Thanks again,
CHAT