Ok here gos, ive ran this by various friends some say ive cocked it up some say stay kool

i met this Super hot girl, we went for a meal had a good time, then i met her 2 days later at hers, just chilled, had a good time,

then the following weekend she came to stay with me, we had a blinder!!!! got on like we were a couple in love,

she was saying things like 'i love kissing you' 'i love looking at you' etc etc
i slept with her a various times over that weekend, then on the Sunday went back to hers and chilled out till late,

here the problems!!

it felt right so on my way home i text her, i like you and think we get on sound, when do i get to call you mine, not really intended as lets get super serious!

she said
i like you alot, and cant wait for next weekend, i just want to take things slow because i have had bad experiences with rushing into relationships and i dont want to risk this with you, theres no point rushing when im not interested in anyone else and its you that has my full attention.

i replied with yea that's all good, its you that has my attention ,


so as this week has progressed we text and ring but Tuesday hits and she flat lines, then texts me saying i need to sleep on some things, that's kool i leave her to it,


i get the text this morning: ''hey you look i don't want to mess you about, i had a real nice weekend and i think you are a quality guy, im just not ready for all that yet, just got a bit to much too soon for me and i don't want it to go any further yet so it isnt fair to keep seeing you, etc, hope your not mad and we can still be on a level i just wana slow it all down a bit,

heres my cock up!!!!

instead of saying something like yea no worries slow is good, i said!!!!!
because ive grown to like her etc


'' the last thing i want is a full blown relationship, i like you and think your a good gal, we have a good time together but jumping into a big thing isnt good, its not healthy, i like it slow and chilled do still wana see you and stuff, your a good chick, keep smiling xx''


have i propper screwed this up,??? there was no text back, should i just hold tight and not contact her and wait for her to maybe contact me if she does??????????

or is there anything i can say or do to save this, after the weekend we had acting like a couple etc its kind of spun me out?????


help please dudes!!!!!

Typical HB annoying pattern Happened to me couple times, they always change their mind if you give them time to think about it. There could be million reasons for it to happen: she meets someone else, she's insecure , etc...
I came to adopt a policy that if she said she wants to take it slow, never compromise with it. You want to stay in control, if you agree with her, you're giving her the power to take the lead and control the pace. I usually just ignore it and tell her "Look, we're adults, we will do whatever we are comfortable with" or I just tell her I will move on and if by any chance we run into each other down the road, then we will see.
I don't think you're moving fast at all, you've been seeing her for couple weeks, it's not like just for couple dates. The problem lies with her, and if she can't make up her damn mind, I wouldn't waste my time on her.
You need to stop acting needy, and freeze her out. If she does like you, she will be crawling back to you once she realizes you won't tolerate her BS and WILL walk away if she doesn't learn how to behave.

nice one dude this was over a course of i met her on a friday then the saturday then wednesday then she stayed at mine the following weekend,

think im just going to leave her to it, if she wants it then shell be in touch, it was just strange as the only reason i felt like that as i was following her lead, she was getting heavy etc etc,

too much too soon,

Made you sound to needy, I think you should've just played it cool and given her the thrill she was looking for.

Let her know you're sexually interested, but don't say you want her to be yours. YOU are the prize and her savior, she should be qualifying herself to you. She needs to know you're in high demand and that SHE needs to do work before she gets to call YOU her boyfriend.

Don't analyze her texts or anything she says. Just see the entire situation from a third-person point of view and judge only by actions.

She had a good weekend with you - means she is interested and wants a sexual relationship with you

You said you want her, next week she says to slow things down - means she has lost interest in you.

Slowing things down does not increase a girls attraction for you. You're problem isn't that you're rushing things, it's that her interest level isn't high enough. So back off for a while, fuk other girls, flirt with her but don't show the slightest hint of desperation. Adopt the mentality that SHE should be feeling like she messed up because she had a great catch and let it pass.

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that actually looks like the right thing to say minus the end parts about still wanting to see her and her being a good girl or w.e.

to me it looks like she backed off cuz u were too emotionally invested when she was just having fun so she ended up with buyers remorse.

by saying "the last thing i want is a relationship" your kinda going the opposite direction... which is the right one...

the "I still wanna see you" shit gotta go tho, dont tell her that, let her wonder.. & try n find out herself by chasing you. play it cool..just dont be a nice guy..

hmmm interesting comments, yea i think i went in to hard, today she sent this

'' im not saying i dont like you and would like to see you again, just, i don't know, it felt weird being away from home all weekend and it was like a reality hit on monday and just seemed to much, im not saying i dont want to see you again because i would like to, just don't wanna jump in like we were, i think your quality and well sexy x x''

i replied with the feeling is mutual babe, have a good day,


i kind of feel like im on the back foot now, do i message her in a few days and say what you up to or do i just leave it now????

dont get me wrong the body she has is fine!!! and wouldnt mind getting on it again,

just feel like im walking on egg shells.