Ok im currently one of the youngest in university being 18 and born in the end of July and am finding it really tough. The main thing that gets to me is that im sharing a flat with a 23 year old and he has more or less shunted me from his social group and it's only been 2 weeks! He's barely bothers to talk to me but when i speak to him he just isn't interested. When we're out on the night game i will get no attention and i ALWAYS have to initiate conversation.

It really annoys me because im a sound guy and can get on with many people, unfortuantely one of the few people that don't like me i have to live with! Is there any way to resolve this bad situation before it gets worse? Bear in mind i have to live with him for another year!

Man, I know what thats like, but I'm lucky because I have an awesome roommate to live with and he's 3 years older. When he has people over, its a lot of fun to chill with them all.

But dude that was the story for me in high school for four years, although I didn't have to live with any of them. A lot of the kids were stuck up bastards and were so self absorbed that they wouldn't pay attention to others unless it gave them social value. When with a group of kids, being ignored was the norm. And believe me, I'm not a loser at all or anything.

So I know what its like, but being at University has given me a fresh start and I've been very open to meeting new people, exchanging a lot of phone numbers. The key is to be really proactive and enthusiastic. I haven't gotten a huge amount of numbers from girls, but established some friendships with guys which is key for creating your own social group.

What I would suggest is do what I've been doing. Fuck your roommate and his friends, cause sometimes some people are so stuck up they're not going to change and its not worth your time to continuously try to win them over.

Go out and meet new people, in classes or whatever, and be enthusiastic and proactive. When you meet a legit guy, casually say stuff like 'we should chill sometime' or 'yo let me get your number ill send you a text'. Cause getting a social group of guys is a good step forward and sounds like thats what you need. You have to make a strong effort when meeting people, an effort to meet again and follow through because most people won't be as proactive.

Hope that helps and your situation gets better!

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Devoz

In my experience living with many uni roomies over many years, things will not change between you and your roomie.

You must choose between accepting that your roomie is only a roomie, and not a friend, and that you must make your fortunes through other avenues.... Or you must get a roomie, probably by moving.

There's no easy fix here. It's not always pleasant living with other people... but it's a compromise you must work with unless you're rich.