| Hey, I don't know where to post this so I'll throw it in here.
I'd like to note ahead of time that this isn't one-itis or anything like that, I'm not crazy for her. But I would like to consider a serious relationship with her, as she just does something to me - btw shes probably about a 6.5 on looks, 8 on personality. If anything, the only reason I don't just walk away now is that I cant afford to lose this group of friends.
Anyway here's the deal - I just got into college and am working on getting into a new social group. There this one girl in it who I like and she treats me in a kind of flirty sense, often looking at me for approval and trying to get my attention. She's done some other stuff that is over-the-top flirty, like giving me views of her ass. She does have a tendency to ridicule me and throw shit at me too, simultaneously, however she does like me ATLEAST as a friend based off of unmistakable signs like asking me to hang out with them and knocking on my door every day.
Now I found out that she's into some other guy in the group who I would never of expected. He's fairly shy, inexperienced, and does not seem all that confident, yet she's making real moves on him. I have not fucked up in how I've acted - the other girl in the group who is a total man-slaughterer is spinning over me, and almost all of the girls are telegraphing serious interested (cept her). Anyway, tonight she walks in on the other girl getting really close to me while we were watching TV as a group, and I'm clearly trying to push the girl off, so she wanders over and sits next to me to talk. About 10 minutes later, she invites me to go hang out with her, only to then proceed to give me some crazy shit as if she hated me, talking about how much of a pushover I am and all this stuff, then really surprises me by countering the shit I counter her with, enough so that she storms off and wanders into her room instead of doing her normal "oh shit" validation - anyway she was back after about 5 minutes once she thought I had left to my room.
I know I have not been a pushover, as I've pretty much thrown everything back at her, and she definitely does not hate me, but this shit came from no where - and I'll be the first to admit that I got caught so off guard I was owned by her. What she's doing makes NO sense to me at all. I can get the girl who crushes men on a daily basis, but I get destroyed by the other girl who is far less aggressive. And why is she going after the other guy when he has presented no qualities to make him attractive? My biggest flag is that I wonder if she is insecure, as she is very quick to attack guys and has a tendency to use them (or so it seems).
I know that was a long post, but this is seriously one of the most interesting situations I've been in. I can't afford to risk losing the group of friends, as they are my only group of friends here SPAM, but on the other hand I really am getting sick of this shit from a girl who I like. I know there's very little any of you guys can do to help, unless you have some ideas as to why the girl would be trying to stomp on me and going for a relatively low rating guy - but anything ideas would be nice.
If worst comes to worst, I need to get her to stop butchering me like this. I don't mind killing all attraction if it means keeping this group of friends, so how might I go about doing this?
Btw, if anyone in Quebec who's college age wants to hang, thats where I'm at (basically).
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