| So, been dating this girl for a little over a month and a half. She was hesitant to start dating because she was in a bad place in her life, and still expresses doubts about dating at this point. However she's also being very affectionate and wanting to spend a lot of time together. We actually see each other almost every day, and when we don't we talk on the phone. It's relatively common for us to spend an entire day together, or have a date last until 5am. (Not an entirely good thing, because she's mentioned a few times she might subconsciously resent me for her being tired the next day and not getting anything done.)
But that's not what's worrying me, that's just background info. What worries me is that, while she's showing more non-sexual affection, she seems to have become less interested sexually.
For instance, a couple weeks in we went to a concert and the traffic was really bad driving back. Every time the car stopped in the traffic jam she was grabbing me to kiss me, and at one point I turned around in an empty parking lot and had to stop the car because she climbed into my seat to make out.
Of course, the first time she was over at my place I had to tell her about my problems with sex. She was supportive, and we're still dating... but we still haven't actually had sex. She had me titty fuck her once a couple weeks ago when we spent the entire day in bed, even before that her actual level of interest seemed to be lower. For instance, coming back from a different concert we had the same issues with traffic, turning around in an empty parking lot... and she didn't make any kind of efforts to kiss me or make out or anything.
We still make out sometimes, but I usually have to put some effort into getting it started. We'll kiss a bit then she'll turn her head. I'd think she's kind of checked out of the relationship, but I'm still getting plenty of PDAs and little kisses and she still wants to spend lots of time together.
So what's the deal? I'm wondering if:
1) She's lost interest but is comforted by my physical affection for her, so keeping me around
2) I'm sliding rapidly into the friend zone
3) She's just worried that getting sexual at this point would make the relationship more serious than she's ready for
4) She's worried that being sexually aggressive was putting too much pressure on me in light of my issues. (Though that doesn't seem to explain backing off when I initiate...)
More importantly, what can I do about it?
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