Hey guys, i'm new to this forum as you can see, and to put it plainly i'm a 22 year virgin. I know, it's sad, which is why i've come here ofcourse. Things need to change. Yet even after browsing these forums for a day i feel a lot more confident about meeting women and such.

Anyway...this brings me to my question, hypothetically if i do bring a girl/girlfriend home (or whatever), is this fact something that it would be better to keep hidden, or is it something that should be brought up just so the girl understands the whole situation? Doing the latter seems to me a quick way to a rejection, while doing the former might lead to embarrassment later when it's quite clear i have no fucking clue what i'm doing, amongst other things. As you can see, i tend to overthink a lot. But some advice would be greatly appreciated, i'm in an interesting spot now where i actually dread closing with a girl as much as i want to! which is quite a problem.

Be nice

hmmm, difficult one. depends what u want. if youjust want to fuck a girl then never see her again dont bother telling her cos lets face it. your not gonna see her again so what does it matter if your not great in bed. also i would consider reading books on how to be good in bed.

also if she is not highly experienced she probably wont know if your good in bed or not.

lets face it some men are crap in bed and have slept with plenty of women.

if you want a relationship with the girl then get to know her a bit then tell her.

i do think your thinking about this way too much. you need to start meeting girls. talking to them. kissing them, your at step 1 and worrying about step 6.

stop it.

a lot of PUA is about changing attitudes. this is a good first attitude to work on.