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PostPosted: Tue Sep 14, 2010 9:04 pm 
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I like being nice to women and treated them like a gentleman but I tend to be very cocky at times because of DD double your dating.

I have attracted a girl by just being cocky and funny... she even told me that I am kinda cocky and me being a nice guy told her that i was sorry and that i am trying to change... which actually built more attraction i feel.

I have also attracted a girl by just being straight up and telling her i like her and asking her out randomly when i hardly know her via text. I was being a nice guy to her but i don't really want her.

I used to attract girls before pua by just being that nice guy. Thats when I got a girlfriend...by being mr nice guy but then after break up i realizedthat i was not very alpha infact i was not even in control in the relationship.

I am looking for material to fallback on that can help me. I am not looking to get laid, i want to attract beautiful women and get a girlfriend.

Should I re visit David D's work? I am not so much into lines but i love interesting things like the 5 question game/ cube type thing.

so what do you reccomend i read or watch


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PostPosted: Tue Sep 14, 2010 9:27 pm 
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Maybe you can look at a different method to learn off? Or ease up on the PUA stuff as you go along?


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There's nothing wrong with being nice. I personally have not checked David D C&F's stuff but I do know what it means. Some of his material is cocky but not funny.

Anyway, you gotta have attractive qualities in you to attract girls. Being confident is attractive. Being funny is also attractive.

If you are being only nice but don't sub-com attractive qualities then you will not be attractive. You could find a girl that you are being high value to her and attraction will be built based on your job, looks and stuff. I personally think that even in such relationship you won't be happy in the long run. This is due to the fact you gotta press on girls attraction switches by teasing and doing stuff that some of nice guys don't.

You have to remember that the problem is not with being nice that girls don't like but rather being only nice.

I have pickup girls from their house via my car. Sometimes I open doors for them. I even buy them a drink and sometimes food. The key to my behavior is that I calibrate that with being extra edgy and asshole at their expense. :)

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Can't really give you concrete advice, but I've sort of done this with LTRs and a few random HBs. Generally, I play C&F while respecting the girl and telling myself that I'll leave her better off than I found her. Even if you just tell yourself that, you will probably strike a good balance. Whether you still want/need to buy her dinner and hold the door is another question. I personally am over that and will only do it to the extent I do it for random guys (if that offers some perspective).

To the extent you want a LTR, being nice (but not only nice) will get you in, but no telling how long that'll last obviously. Talking about shit gone wrong in her life might work, just always try to hijack to convo and turn to something more positive. All I will say is that being nice, especially in a LTR, will quickly beta you, so look out...

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The point about c+f is to be fun, lighthearted, a tease, a challenge, and show attractive qualities whilst displaying dominance, high value and abundance.

Once you've actually slept with a girl, what on earth is the point of negging her? None.

You can completely lay off that shit once you have an actual relationship. Then you're not buying her dinner because you want her to like you and have sex with you (you're not buying her time or supplicating), you're doing it because you want to hang out with her have a fun time and a nice meal.

Be a gentleman once you've slept with her. Be a funny, cocky guy with a lot of options who doesn't take her shit BEFORE that.

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I like being nice to women and treated them like a gentleman but I tend to be very cocky at times because of DD double your dating.

I have attracted a girl by just being cocky and funny... she even told me that I am kinda cocky and me being a nice guy told her that i was sorry and that i am trying to change... which actually built more attraction i feel.

I have also attracted a girl by just being straight up and telling her i like her and asking her out randomly when i hardly know her via text. I was being a nice guy to her but i don't really want her.

I used to attract girls before pua by just being that nice guy. Thats when I got a girlfriend...by being mr nice guy but then after break up i realizedthat i was not very alpha infact i was not even in control in the relationship.

I am looking for material to fallback on that can help me. I am not looking to get laid, i want to attract beautiful women and get a girlfriend.

Should I re visit David D's work? I am not so much into lines but i love interesting things like the 5 question game/ cube type thing.

so what do you reccomend i read or watch
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