| Ok, just thought I'd put the feelers out here, there's a girl I've worked with for a while, we became really good friends, and we both were really attracted to each other. I eventually asked her out, we dated for a few weeks, had fantastic sex (made her orgasm every time), she told me no one made her laugh like me, I'm the best kisser she's ever had, I make her so horny etc. She text me a lot saying she missed my cuddles etc. She said she'd had the biggest crush on me for like 2 months before we dated.
Until one night came and I got a bit drunk and started getting a bit emotionally heavy, she said I was acting needy, I noticed a change after that, she cancelled our weekend plans, we had a work outing on the fri night after she'd ignored me for a few days, we kissed a lot and ended up going home together and sleeping together again, but I also remember trying to "make up" for being needy by being the opposite, probably a mistake.
We had limited contact for a week, then I asked her out again and she said no, said something just didn't click and we could just be friends. I said I was dissapointed, but ok, and no hard feelings. I went into NC mode, she went on a 2 week vacation. In this time she's contacted me a few times, first of all to ask if I've met any other girls, I ignored, she then text again saying she hopes I'm not avoiding her 'cos she doesn't want me too. I replied few days later saying no, I was just busy and I'd see her at work next week.
Today she txts me and asks if I'm working on monday, I said just said "yeah will be", she said "cool I'll see you then xx". Now I had fully accepted that it was over, I think the mistake I made was I fell too hard and too fast, and also being blind drunk the last two times I saw her didn't help.
Basically we have to work together for a bit on mon/tues, just me and her, you reckon there's any chance of slowly turning it around? I am dating other girls now, but she is just amazing, I thought we got on so well and I'm pissed at myself for ruining it by being drunk/needy. I think the last few weeks of LC/NC have shown her I'm not as needy as she thought, and she's initiated all contact since.
What you reckon? If I just go back to being the cool/friendly guy at work and not mentioning our former "thing" at all, there's a chance she might start to like me again? I'm also being rather stand-offish now, bit more of a challenge I guess. I suppose I should just keep trying to move on, that's prob my best bet of regaining her interest? I'll be honest, I like her too much to just be a friend, I'd rather have her totally out of my life than that (expect when I'm forced to work with her), even though I've only known her for a few months, I do have very strong feelings for her.
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